anxiety

[81oct]

Am 87 years old, female. Over the years have suffered anxiety & received good help from an extra hour with particularly kind GPs. At present these Drs have more worries to deal with so am looking for other help.

I appear confident to friends but underneath moving into groups of people can be worrying. Having a few medical problems lately has brought this on again, I want to get going, but am finding it very hard.

[white knight]

Hi and welcome

I'm 67yo and had high anxiety in my 20's and it peaked at 31yo with one panic attack originally diagnosed as a heart attack.

I embarked on a mixture of learned relaxation techniques and my own life changes to almost cure myself but it took many years.

The best lived experiences I can pass onto you now is watching youtube videos that I will select for you. All you have to do is put them into google.

Maharaji prem rawat sunset

Maharaji prem rawat all is well

Maharaji prem rawat the perfect instrument

Maharaji prem rawat appreciation

He has many more on Youtube so I hope you find them. I like to relax on bed while listening to them taking slow deep breaths.

The other factors I tried and was successful at was life changes. I did away with clubs altogether even though friends try to get me into the mens shed, nope it isnt for me. I found a semi hermit life far better. I still socialise but not outwardly joining groups to do it, if I'm approached thats ok, I'll join in and leave after a while slowly so I'm not missed.

Medical, family issues can have a remarkably negative effect upon us mentally. It could also be a cycle. 

I think the Drs dont mind at all treating you, you are as important as all the other patients. It could be a perception and being older you might think you are bothering others, but you are important.

PETAL POWER     to 81oct

On your saddest day

You take a daisy flower

You pick petal for each of your woes

And count them by the hour

And when they become a stem

And petals line the floor

Gather them up in your loving arms

Put them in your store

When you enter spirit land

It be snowing like Daisy Dell

Flowers thrown in celebration

By faces you can tell

Then you throw your own

And you will include the stems

Cause that’s what bound these petals together

A meaning to and end

Loved ones will pick up the last flower

Of this daisy chain

Reunited and delighted

Connected to loved ones once again

A simple daisy flower

Messages you can’t ignore

A petal for each of your woes

Are littering the floor

So on your saddest days

You take a daisy flower

Feel free to pick a petal for each of your woes

And count them by the hour

For your heart will glue them all together again

When it’s time to travel above

For your loved ones  a gift in your pocket

The daisy chain of love…..

TonyWK

[23jeanie]

Hi Community Member,  

I do feel for you. I am 75 years old and also suffer from anxiety.  I find I'm worst in the mornings but once I get getting with the day I mostly feel a little better. Most of the time.

Some things that have helped me are journalling. Just scribbling all my worries down on a piece of paper. Doesn't have to look good. Just write and then I generally tear the paper into tiny pieces and put it in the rubbish. Another distraction for me is music. I find it calms my mind after 15 mins or so or watching movies that take me away from my wound up feelings into another world for a little while.  I think sugary foods make me worse too and lack of sleep of course. 

I know how you feel about feeling other people matter more and the doctors have more to deal with. I feel like that too. Quite often.  Ageing does that I think. It's horrible but we are still important people. Thats, what I have to keep telling myself anyway.  I hope you can remind yourself of that and the contribution you've made to society.

All the best with your health and hope the doctors can resolve any problems quickly for you so that you can feel good again. 

[Richju]

Dear 81oct,

How wonderful that you 'want to get going' at 87 years old. I'm only 72 but I hope I'll be as active as you sound, when I'm in my late 80s.

I'm sure your GP will be happy to help someone as keen to work on herself, as you seem to be. Please don't be nervous about asking for help.

I agree with White Knight. Sometimes our own company is preferable to joining clubs. The club thing is a bit overdone as we get older. I enjoy growing veges, solitary walks and plenty of meditation rather than trying to make conversation when I'm not really interested.

please continue to post. I'd love to hear how you are going.

Best regards,

Richju xx

[quirkywords]

81oct 

• welcome to t his supportive group. 
  
  
• I feel you will inspire people of all ages to keep trying to get most of the most out of life.

[blondguy]

Hello 81oct

Thankyou for being a part of the Beyond Blue family. Im 62 and have had this anxiety issue since I was 22

81oct mentioned.....'' I appear confident to friends but underneath moving into groups of people can be worrying"

Thankyou for having the courage to mention this 81oct. I understand your 'pain' with groups of people too. Even though we dont have any noticeable physical issues generalized anxiety can be just as debilitating.

Like yourself my GP is a kind professional that is well versed where anxiety is concerned.

 you are always welcome to post 81oct

Paul

CC Online Volunteer

[81oct]

Thank you white knight. i looked up some of the Maharaji quotes & will refer to them in future.

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