hey borderline insanity,
is your name a reference to borderline personality disorder?
I'm just making a bit of a leap considering you're talking about relationships and that's often a hallmark of the diagnosis.
Anyway, diagnosis aside, it sounds like you've been getting better at managing your relationship anxiety. I'm in the same boat in terms of having freak out moments with my interpersonal relationships and trying to work on it.
It's very hard to do though since we are essentially wired a particular way but what has helped for me is to have a friend that i basically check everything with. When I'm afraid, I tell them. When I'm feeling good, I tell them. I'm amazed she's this patient with me but she also has anxiety and I guess she can kind of relate. Have you tried sharing your thoughts with someone else close before?
I've also tried doing the "okay I'll wait another minute before replying" tactic. It kind of helps me to just get used to having zero communication but...yeah, it's a slow process to rewire the brain.
Have you discussed this with any medical health professionals? I currently see my psychologist twice a week - i get attachment issues with her too, but I guess that's the point. We can't work on our attachments unless we're exposed to them, so I think it's great that you're continuing to give it a go 🙂
James
