Anxiety Spiralling

[KCT]

I’ve recently sold my mortgage free home that I’ve lived in for 30 years to move to the city. My adult daughter lives with me and suffers from social anxiety.  She has no friends or social network where we live so this is one of the major reasons for our move.  We live in a country region and there is really no support here once you are over 18.  Now I’m going to have a mortgage and a new job.  I’m worried once repayments etc are made I’m not actually going to have much money left to be able to enjoy living in the city anyway. I’m having panic attack after panic attack.  It’s debilitating.  I’ve got so much to do still as far as packing and organising everything to do with the move whilst dealing with brokers and real estate agents.  I’m second guessing all of my decisions and really just want to curl up into a ball and stop it all from happening. Normally when I’m feeling like this I can avoid or change the thing that is making me anxious but in this instance it’s too late to do that which means I have to actually face it which petrifies me. I’m not sure how I’m going to get through this. It’s really hard to explain to people if they’ve never suffered with debilitating anxiety.  My head is just full of negative talk.  I’ve be been to the GP but there’s really only so much they can do. 

[white knight]

Hi KCT welcome

Anxiety is a serious condition underestimated in its potential damage and long term effects. GP's are limited but their input is vital like all other factors in recovering from the illness.

As your daughter also has anxiety it might be time to seriously look at how you both can tackle the illness long term because, in many cases it can be cured and I'm a living example. It took a full 22 years before I finally realised I was free of the illness but along the way there were times when it dawned on me that I was improving.

So to do that it is a multi pronged approach, all means must be included in the strategy from relaxation exercises daily, talking to yourself when a anxious moment arrives, taking on logic, diversion and variety and environmental changes. All this is spelt out in the link below.

But that doesnt help much for the present. There is a degree of anxiousness that should be accepted because even anxiety free people would be anxious moving house to- anywhere. After all, your whole life is changing. So deep breaths, familiarize yourself with the new surroundings, find a nearby park and walk around it. Try not to be in a rush to unpack everything, stop regularly for a drink and a chat. I would also consider finding a nearby cafe that you could regularly attend for drinks and make it your regular spot. You might also consider a local relaxation class, see a local GP or visit the council chambers.

https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/anxiety/anxiety-how-l-eliminated-it/td-p/183873

https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/staying-well/depression-distraction-and-variety/td-p/275790

I hope that helps

TonyWK

[Butterfly101]

1. Sweetie nothing is ever set in concrete - so you have sold your house in the country ? Well you could always buy another house in the country. Do you really have to move to the city? Can ur daughter move there on her own, get a job and flat etc but always have u to come home to? Why don’t u just move to city for 6 months initially and rent somewhere? If it doesn’t work for you - then just go back to the country - all is good. Nothing has to be forever! Nothing is forever!😘 listen to meditation music and lie down and breath slowly- watch a good movie or read a good book. Ring and talk to beyond blue and make yourself a cup of herbal tea. Don’t rush yourself. Just take it a minute at a time and focus on peace and tranquility 😊

[Olive83]

I am relate to this post when it comes to dealing with Real Estate agents etc. It creates so much stress and increases my anxiety. But this isn't uncommon for anyone going through a big move. I like what other people have shared in that this too will pass, it doesn't have to be forever and take the time to implement little strategies that may seem trivial. Beyond Blue Chat suggested to me the other night that if all I can handle is three deep breaths. Than at least do those three deep breaths. I hope this helps.