Hi Hymz,
Thanks for sharing and welcome the Beyondblue. Paul has given some great advice, you should heed this.
I would add that perhaps if you are over-analyzing your communications, then you simplify them. What I would do in this situation:
- Communicate less via text message and via social media. These communications can not only give you grief as to how they are perceived and in which context, but they can also be taken out of context by the recipient (although, this is something you would likely worry about more than it would actually become a reality of happening).
- Communicate more in person and over the phone instead. This way, you can think better what you say, how you say it, get into more detail, use body and facial language etc. and thus give yourself a lot less grief as to how your message was delivered. You can develop a certain mindfulness to your in-person and verbal communications, which is much harder to do in written communications especially in highly informal channels such as text and/or social media.
The above would be a first step more to rest your mind and change your habits, as opposed to getting past the issue at the core. The second step and to address the core, is to recalibrate your thinking and feeling around the topic of communication. A good behavioural therapist can help here, you should go to your GP and get a referral.
We are here for you, and I can promise your writings here will not be taken out of context and will be given the utmost attention from your readers. Come back and chat anytime.
Steve
