Anxiety is ruining my life.

[jade19]

In the past I have suffered from extreme depression and anxiety/social anxiety (social anxiety since I was little).

I went through a horrible stage last year where my anxiety and panic attacks were affecting my ability to do anything, mainly go to work. I got support and help, taking medication etc. It helped.

I was at my job for over 8 years, and decided it was time to move on to something different.

And now I cannot stand my new job, it's horrible. I've applied for so many jobs, and nothing - even asked for my old job back.

Everyday I go there my stomach is just in knots. Recently I have been extremely sick, vomiting, nausea, migraines, and it won't stop (also not pregnant). And I'm pretty sure it's my anxiety about this job that's making me so sick.

People I talk to about it just say, 'Stick it out, it'll get better', 'Just stay positive, don't think negative' etc. I know they mean well, but I can't just change my mindset when everyday this job is just making mg anxiety worse.

I also just moved to a different suburb (I'm used to being close to my mum, now I'm living far away from her) to be closer to my partners parents as they have health issues and we want to be closer. But the house we are renting doesn't feel right, I don't feel at home and our lease isn't up until July.

im so sick of feeling this way and having no one to turn to. I feel like I'm out of options. any advise?

-jade

[white knight]

Hi jade,

Generally in life mist if us have short, medium and long range plans...be it financial, raising a family or other.

With our mental health issues especially anxiety, we eliminate the medium and long term plans because we are preoccupied (flooded) with current issues. We are too anxious to be calm and calculated.

We need to be proactive in taking an hour to plan our future. Once thus is done you'll feel better...you'll see your plan on paper and it sets better in your mind.

So with your partner try to do this.

Also, begin to or continue muscle relaxation exercises.

Dont get tied up in thing you have no control over. Worry produces nothing but ulcers.

Two threads I recommend are , google them

Topic: Maharaji-, he helped me for 25 years- beyondblue

Topic: plan for your future- beyondblue

there is so many threads on this site. Try reading two each night.

Tony WK

[jade19]

Thank you for the advise, I'll be sure to have a read now 🙂

[BballJ]

Hi jade19,

It does seem your anxiety is getting the best of you and what you listed are all anxiety symptoms and something as stressful as going to work is hard enough at the best of time but when you can't stand the place its even worse and it all festers inside of you so I understand and hear what you are saying. Have you looked into a recruitment agency to help you find a job, maybe your resume just needs a sparkling touch? One thing i have found for me when looking for jobs is call the places you are applying to, if it's a company with an HR department, ask for the department and say you found the job on Seek or wherever and ask if they are still taking applicants and maybe a question or two about the job, I have found this helps because when they are going through the resumes as most places get plenty, they may see your name and give it an extra hard look at, nothing is guaranteed but just wanted to pass on what has helped me secure work in the past.

Regarding the living situation, it is always tough especially when you cannot up and leave and I do know the feeling of your house not being a home that you are accustomed too. What is it about home you are missing, just your mum or are there things you can do around the house to make it feel like home?

Tony has given some good information so please read through the anxiety page and you may get a better grasp as well.

My best for you,

Jay

[Traveller73]

Try and keep life balanced, work is one facet. Keep healthy. Keep trying with the job applications, they say with each rejection you are getting closer. Ask questions at job interviews, not in aggressive way, but suss out before you leap to another job. Work on resume andskills to improve. Don't give up or give in to your anxiety. Try and do something positive and fun every day.

[Croix]

Dear Jade,
As a person who has suffered from physical symptoms generated by anxiety and anxiety attacks for many years I can well sympathize with your situation. Your feelings going to work rings many bells with me

You are also in a situation where everything is a stressor, home, work, change, job applications etc.

Here are a few of suggestions you may consider (my apologies if you have already considered these):

Firstly it might pay to visit your GP or health professional and set out the situation and your symptoms. I tend to find it is a good idea to write down a list in point form first and use it when with the doctor (you can perhaps hand over a copy)

Secondly try to reduce your ‘background’ level of stress, by that I mean those times when you are feeling reasonably ok and there is nothing actually hitting you right at the time. Relaxation, exercise, distraction via a book or music – I’m sure there are many others in these forums who can go into more detail than me.

I'd add another thread to Tony's:
Forums / Anxiety / SELF HELP TIPS FOR MANAGING ANXIETY
Which, though long, has many helpful ideas

Thirdly have a think – with your partner if you can – about what’s wrong with your current home and anything that might make it better. While you may not be able to change any of the physical problems (location, noise, rooms etc.) you might be able to do little bits even if only add some touches that calm the eye or please the ear

Fourthly if you miss your Mum can you set up a Skype link with which you can use to casually chat? While many of the older generation are not comfortable with computers/smartphones etc it might be ok if it was set up for her and left in that state

BTW I find listening to an enjoyable audiobook on the way to work is a bit of a distraction, however that’s just me

Why not say a little more about yourself, your family circumstances, what you like and so on?

You have my best wishes and hopes for the future

Croix