Anxiety every time I leave the house

[cai]

I'll try to shorten the back story... my mother passed away suddenly from medical negligence. 6 months later my cousin died. I fell pregnant and separated from my son's father at 5 months pregnant. My son was born at 26 weeks gestation with life threatening conditions, spent nearly 6 months in NICU and then my step father passed away a few months after my son's 1st birthday. I have severe anxiety with panic disorder and I have had panic attacks since I was 4 years old.

My daily anxiety has increased significantly to the point that I don't like to leave the house unless it's for my son's therapy sessions, special needs playgroups or for him to socialise somewhat. I have my son most of the time but when he does stay with his father I feel lost and very anxious and don't want to leave the safety of my house.

My question is how do those with this kind of anxiety (or terrible anxiety/ptsd) deal with having to leave the house or their comfort zone? I have this never ending feeling of dread and heightened anxiety that is both draining and makes me feel physically sick. I have an awful fear of death and have awful worrying thoughts of something terrible happening to me or to my loved ones. I'm so sick of feeling as though I need to be constantly aware and controlling of everything.

[DV_Arjay]

Unfortunately
Everyone, deep down is afraid of death
You gotta bite the bullet sometimes and just go with the flow and hope that nothing ever goes wrong
For instance
I have the worry of crashing and dying in my car everyday
But i still drive because the chances of that happening are slim and im biting the bullet of chance.
With anxiety
Ive used a few youtube content creators that help sooth the mind and distract from the every day worries
I can give u a few links if youre interested
Trying to stay positive about life is what everyone says
Which is extremely cliche
just find something that gives you an adrenaline rush which impacts your mind to set up tasks as to how to get past your anxiety
What usually triggers your anxiety attacks tho???
Mine was always bad news from people I know that can somehow affect me
Sounds weird, but it would happen whilst i was at work.
You just gotta take a breather and say you can do this and push forward
anyhow
Not sure if this helped at all. but wish you the best cai

[white knight]

Hi cau, welcome

Having had anxiety including panic attacks and conquered it l can advise.

It did take me 25 years in total though. Such is the task, it was like l had to deprogram my way of thinking and put faith in some daily rituals.

Relaxation. The most effective l found was muscle tensioning exercises performed just before sleeping. It lowers your hreart rate and help with sound sleep. Also listening to youtube. Google Maharaji youtube sunset and youtube Maharaji the perfect instrument. Deep breathing. And google is your friend if venturing outdoors is a problem.

medication. Sometimes we need a helping hand at least in the short term

Therapy. sorting out your fears is so important. My therapist recognised l had unrealistic thoughts, worrying about things that were unlikely to occur...Worry is non productive, it produces nothing but stomach ulcers.

Hobbies and sports. Diverting your mind is important. Gardening is good for your child too, knitting, cooking, volleyball, badminton, a simple jigsaw puzzle. Filling in those worry periods with activities. Worry only produces ulcers.

Motivation. attend motivation lectures. Turn negatives into positives. Google

Topic: 30 minutes can change your life- beyondblue

Topic: want to be a hermit?- beyondblue

Boost yourself

Topic: the best praise you'll ever get- beyondblue

Reduce burden. Make sure you work effectively and smoothly with the father of your child with visitations and his family if needed. Rid youself of toxic people especially on social media.

Environment. As mention in the hermit thread, adjust your environment to improve your calmness. For me it was a move to the country. This also allowed for less rent/mortgage and better finances equals less worry. Get the idea now?

One day the balacing scales will tip towards your favour.

There are thousands of threads here for you to read.

Tony WK