Anxiety and Libido

[Lilley_55]

Hi im new here !

I just wanted to share my experience and hopefully have soem answers !

recently I was going so well and my anxiety was very controlled I would say it was like it wasn't there, then an accident happened and I had to take the morning after pill (would like to mention I had a very bad reaction to the normal form of the pill e.g anxiety depression and mood swings ) and that is where everything went in a downward spiral my anxiety and depression was spiked badly,I had an hour long panic attack leading to me feeling down and just really depressed, as a result my libido feels like it has completely left me and I hate it because I have a boyfriend and I want to do it, we both enjoyed it so much but I can't and everytime it comes to that stage i feel really panicked and scared because I'm not feeling it but I want, so I end up with anxiety over not having a libdo, it very upsetting and frustraiting  

[JessF]

Hello Lilley, how recent is recent?  It sounds like the idea of becoming pregnant (I assume this is what you mean by accident) is something that has spooked you and triggered your anxiety. Perhaps there's a part of you that doesn't feel like intimate contact in case another "accident" happens? 

If not and you think that your anxiuous feelings are totally a result of taking medication, then you need to go and talk to your doctor about that.

[Saltbush_boy]

Hi Lilly great topic I find as a husband this is a huge part of our life going to waste I suffer the same from no libido anxiety to being anxious on not doing my part for my wife then the accusations of sleeping around I wish I had answers but when you just can't be intimate you feel incomplete and start to question yourself please try not to think about it as spontiniety pops up when you least expect it hope this helps 

[pipsy]

Hi Lilley_55.  When you say you had a 'bad' reaction to the morning after pill, is this the first time you've had this reaction?  I would, perhaps as Jess suggested, talk to your Dr about the reaction to the pill.  How long have you been taking the medication?  When women start taking the pill, we often have bad reactions.  I used to 'retch' violently.  Perhaps discuss with your Dr any other form of contraception.  I would say, if taking the pill gives you this feeling, then another form of contraception would be your best bet.  It's extremely possible that because of your reaction to the pill, coupled with your anxiety over the reaction, would've made your libido nose-dive.  If you are happy with everything in your life, sex life, contraception (whatever method), the anxiety would be less because you know that there's not going to be a bad reaction.  Definitely, discuss with your Dr about various contraceptive methods.