Dear Gloria10~
I guess from what you have said in the past you are taking parents, particularly your mum. Sorry if I misunderstand.
If parents have strong views it is hard on the children and growing up in that sort of environment may well make the younger person develop a habit of deferring and giving in, or if that does not suit then minimizing things or saying what is expected instead of the facts.
This is a legacy that continues into later life. I had such parents and eventually after deferring to their wishes all my younger life things came to an end when I dug my heels in and there was a family split.
I'm not saying that will happen to you, just that I've thought about the problem a fair bit over the years. I came to the conclusion that when young I did not have that many practical choices except to go along, and I guess like you I made my share of silly decisions.
I suppose you could go down the path of telling what they want to hear and put off any sort of confrontation - for a while.
Then again why? You have another job. The longer you put off saying things as they are - the harder it will probably get, and you will not be building up respect. You will also still be 'depending ' on your parents approval.
Actually none of those was the major benefit for me. It was being a person in my own right, Independent of the past, with self-respect. I ended up seeing my parents as equals and I stood by my judgment they were wrong. It made me a better, more reliable and stronger person - even though the split caused a fair degree of heartache.
I freely admit I do not know your particular circumstances, nor your parents. All I can say is that making my own decisions and then simply telling them -not arguing - was the way I went, and I'm happy with that.
Croix
