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Lost my mum

Missmymum — Sat, 06 Jun 2026 14:04:17 GMT

My mum passed away Wednesday night suddenly and I’m not coping. She was my best friend and only support. I don’t know what I’m gonna do without her, and I’m terrified. I promised her I wouldn’t give up when she passed but it’s so hard. Does anyone know anything that could help me, please?

Re: Lost my mum

Yoshi227 — Sat, 06 Jun 2026 15:00:17 GMT

I am so very sorry to hear about your mom. I can’t imagine how difficult this must be for you. Please reach out to the beyond blue helpline or emergency services. You are already so strong by reaching out to this forum so well done for doing that. There are some amazing support networks online but I do believe in person help could be a good shout to help you process everything. It’s going to be difficult but I am sending lots of strength and courage your way. Please come back here if you need a safe space to share anything

Re: Lost my mum

Renie — Sun, 07 Jun 2026 08:59:13 GMT

Hello I’m so sorry for your loss , and losing your mum is tough.
take it one day at a time. I found it useful by breaking my day in small tasks.
you can also ring life line . Grief line and beyond blue .

it will be a roller coaster for you. But keep going and be kind to yourself. You have suffered a big loss x

Re: Lost my mum

Psychdiaries2 — Sun, 07 Jun 2026 10:06:43 GMT

Hi there,

Welcome to the forums and I'm so sorry to hear about the very hard loss you're experiencing losing your mum. It's ok to feel scared and deeply sad right now. Give yourself the time to grieve and process this. You are strong and can get through this. You have so much bravery by reaching out for help. I know the others have mentioned Lifeline and Beyond Blue and so I'm just going to leave the numbers below for quick access:

Lifeline: 13 11 14

Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636

I would definitely recommend calling them for confidential support and advice. I send you all the love and hope you have peace in this difficult time. Be gentle with yourself, you're going to be ok ❤️

Keep reaching out on here, we are here for you

Kind regards,

PsychDiaries

Re: Lost my mum

therising — Wed, 10 Jun 2026 09:21:22 GMT

The warmest of welcomes to you at one of the most challenging times in your life in so many ways. I feel for you so deeply and wish there was something I could say to help take the pain away.

Being a little further down the track from having lost my mum (this time last year), I recall the grief as being breathtaking, unbearable and just so overwhelming. I can fully relate to a mum being a best friend, which can make is so so sooooo much harder. It's like losing so many people all rolled into one - best friend, mum, guide, seer (of the way forward0, sage, emotional relief, comedian on occasion and so much more. The breathtaking part of such a loss comes down to how you can cry so much it can be hard to catch your breath at times.

The 'one day at a time' factor comes down to 'How do I live without this person? How am I meant to do life without them?'. I found this is the only way to do it, one day at a time. I think it's about what we do through each of those days, in the way of learning to live differently, that makes the difference. Btw, it's important to be patient with ourself if we prove to be a slow learner, for what we need to learn is mind altering and life changing stuff, which is no small task. It takes time.

I'd say one of the most challenging things when it comes to how to live involves how others dictate the ways in which they think we should live. How they can judge us doesn't make life any easier at times, that's for sure. For example, if how you want to live involves imagining your mum and talking to her out loud when you're on your own. You do you, no matter what anyone says. If you want to say to her out loud 'I don't know how to do life without you. How am I meant to do it?', go ahead and say that. If you open your mind and heart, which can be so hard to do in such an overwhelming state of grief, see what comes to mind. Could be something as simple as 'Go on the Beyond Blue forums'.

Two of the things I have learned over the past year are 1)every day holds lessons to be learned on how to live in different ways and 2)the right questions (when asked with an open mind) receive the right answers. While you face a time of such intense questioning, it may be hard to know what the right questions are. Again, be patient with yourself as you learn through such a deeply traumatic and heartbreaking time. I found sometimes it pays to ask someone 'What question do I need to ask?'.❤️