topic Lost.. in Grief and loss

Lost..

Neildowne — Wed, 26 Feb 2025 22:52:30 GMT

Hi all

well.....last November my partner asked me to leave our home of 16 years

my dogs..my garden..my home gone

i moved in with friends for 6 weeks,,,they stole from me....abused me...emotionally

now im with my niece and husband for a while

im missing my life i had.....i just cant seem to move on

i did my back in 7 weeks ago.....slowly getting better

thankyou all x

its a long story......ive lost my forever home...Neil

Re: Lost..

Croix — Thu, 27 Feb 2025 13:39:16 GMT

Dear Neil~

To lose home, partner, animals and the way of life you have built up would leave a huge hole in your heart -and also I would expect generate a heap of mixed feelings, grief and loss of course, but loneliness, anger to and maybe feelings lacking in self-esteem.

November is not that long ago and I would feel devastated for a lot longer, after half of life is gone.

It's a little hard to try to draw a parallel or offer everything other than 'generic' sympathy without more information. Do you think you would like to say why you thought you were told to leave? After 16 yeas you must know your partner pretty well

All I can realy say there is hope, you may return -depending on circumstances - or you may find others to love and love you (including dogs).

I hope your back mends quickly

Croix

Re: Lost..

Neildowne — Sat, 01 Mar 2025 20:00:04 GMT

His sister came to live with us in june last year

She was horrid.... i think it was all a plan,,,,,

i didnt get along with her

He asked me to leave

He was a drinker ...bad from covid onwards

I was wanting to leave

Her and i had a verbal fight

He did not like that

I wont allow myself to grieve any longer

My back is way better

Thankyou

Re: Lost..

Croix — Sun, 02 Mar 2025 13:12:22 GMT

Dear Neil~

I don't know why it is but sometimes when a family gets all together they can become toxic, and that is what seems to have happened here.

I would do you no good to remain in that atmosphere and and can lead to to a harmful and unhappy life - so although it is sad I'm glad for you that you told your ex and have moved out.

I'm not sure grief is so easily put away but I remember from my own times that anger can be a big help.

I'm pleased you back is better, nothing worse than constant pain and restricted movement.

May I ask what your plans are now?

Croix