https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/grief-and-loss/i-lost-my-husband-my-best-friend-we-have-been-together-for-18/m-p/566472#M4848 <P>Hi Saddepressed-al…&nbsp;</P><P>I’m so sorry for your loss and understand how difficult passing through this milestone must be for you. It’s really tough. Hugs to you.</P><P>People grieve in different ways, there is no right or wrong and certainly no timetable. Milestone come hard even as you heal. I don’t think anyone is ever ready for the flood of emotions.</P><P>But it will get better.&nbsp;For now you need to get through.<BR />From my experience, I have found keeping busy helps, as does exercise. It helps to be able to sleep if your body’s tired.</P><P>I understand not being able to look at photos, but am wondering if you feel ready to talk to him? A lot of people talk to the dead (including me) and you don’t have to go to his final resting place to do it. In my belief system I know that my departed loved ones can hear me and it brings me great comfort.</P><P>If that sounds strange to you, perhaps you can start a journal and write down your feelings. The act of putting pen to paper is a release.</P><P>Please post any time if you feel like it and let us know how you are going.&nbsp;<BR />Kind thoughts to you</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>&nbsp;</P> Sun, 28 May 2023 06:16:59 GMT Summer Rose 2023-05-28T06:16:59Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/grief-and-loss/i-lost-my-husband-my-best-friend-we-have-been-together-for-18/m-p/566457#M4847 <P>My husband died on the 14th April from a stroke (2).&nbsp; We have worked and been together 24 / 7 the whole time.&nbsp; Yesterday would have been our 19th Anniversary. I was not paying attention as was in hospital&nbsp; to dates but then found out about yesterday.&nbsp; I still can not look at our photos.</P><P>I feed awful I wasn't ready for this first mile stone.</P><P>i just want to join him.</P><P>&nbsp;</P> Sun, 28 May 2023 04:00:15 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/grief-and-loss/i-lost-my-husband-my-best-friend-we-have-been-together-for-18/m-p/566457#M4847 Saddepressed-alone 2023-05-28T04:00:15Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/grief-and-loss/i-lost-my-husband-my-best-friend-we-have-been-together-for-18/m-p/566472#M4848 <P>Hi Saddepressed-al…&nbsp;</P><P>I’m so sorry for your loss and understand how difficult passing through this milestone must be for you. It’s really tough. Hugs to you.</P><P>People grieve in different ways, there is no right or wrong and certainly no timetable. Milestone come hard even as you heal. I don’t think anyone is ever ready for the flood of emotions.</P><P>But it will get better.&nbsp;For now you need to get through.<BR />From my experience, I have found keeping busy helps, as does exercise. It helps to be able to sleep if your body’s tired.</P><P>I understand not being able to look at photos, but am wondering if you feel ready to talk to him? A lot of people talk to the dead (including me) and you don’t have to go to his final resting place to do it. In my belief system I know that my departed loved ones can hear me and it brings me great comfort.</P><P>If that sounds strange to you, perhaps you can start a journal and write down your feelings. The act of putting pen to paper is a release.</P><P>Please post any time if you feel like it and let us know how you are going.&nbsp;<BR />Kind thoughts to you</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>&nbsp;</P> Sun, 28 May 2023 06:16:59 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/grief-and-loss/i-lost-my-husband-my-best-friend-we-have-been-together-for-18/m-p/566472#M4848 Summer Rose 2023-05-28T06:16:59Z