https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/grief-and-loss/loss-of-one-of-the-only-family-members-i-have-left-sheer-guilt/m-p/521183#M4208 <P>Hi SapphireDreams.</P> <P>You're welcome, and thank you for the kind words back, that means a lot. I'm glad it meant a lot to you too and I could somehow help, that means a lot to me aswell. I can understand being anxious and terrified to check the responses but it's all good, this is a safe, friendly, caring, non judgemental, moderated place, so you're all good. And yes they are gorgeous</P> Mon, 29 Mar 2021 07:14:29 GMT Guest_4643 2021-03-29T07:14:29Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/grief-and-loss/loss-of-one-of-the-only-family-members-i-have-left-sheer-guilt/m-p/521178#M4203 I feel like there should've been something that could've been done. The way it happened was so out of the blue, I miss him so much. But I can't get past it. All I do is feel like it's my fault... He was the best pop and overall one of the best people I knew. How do I cope with this? I feel alone, like my circle is getting so small, and it'd almost be gone soon. I love my pop but now I only really have my mum left family wise... Thu, 25 Mar 2021 03:04:19 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/grief-and-loss/loss-of-one-of-the-only-family-members-i-have-left-sheer-guilt/m-p/521178#M4203 SapphireDreams 2021-03-25T03:04:19Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/grief-and-loss/loss-of-one-of-the-only-family-members-i-have-left-sheer-guilt/m-p/521179#M4204 Take your time to grieve. Just don't allow yourself to drown as it maybe harder to cope up once you're submerged for a long time. Don't feel guilty as we all have our time, so make sure you make yours worthwhile. Try new things. Meet new people. Go somewhere new. Fri, 26 Mar 2021 10:44:29 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/grief-and-loss/loss-of-one-of-the-only-family-members-i-have-left-sheer-guilt/m-p/521179#M4204 Sweesoft 2021-03-26T10:44:29Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/grief-and-loss/loss-of-one-of-the-only-family-members-i-have-left-sheer-guilt/m-p/521180#M4205 <P>Hey SapphireDreams, welcome.</P> <P>I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't know the situation (you don't need to explain, I understand it's triggering so please don't feel you have to), but I want to reassure you that you've done nothing wrong, people pass away unfortunately. It sounds like you were close to him, which of course makes it harder to grieve. There's no time limit on grieving. I'm sure they'd want you to be happy and think of the good times you shared with him.</P> <P>Nothing is your fault. By the way your profile picture is gorgeous.</P> Fri, 26 Mar 2021 10:50:05 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/grief-and-loss/loss-of-one-of-the-only-family-members-i-have-left-sheer-guilt/m-p/521180#M4205 Guest_4643 2021-03-26T10:50:05Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/grief-and-loss/loss-of-one-of-the-only-family-members-i-have-left-sheer-guilt/m-p/521181#M4206 Thank you for your incredibly kind reply. It means a great deal to me. You seem very understanding <span class="lia-unicode-emoji" title=":slightly_smiling_face:">🙂</span> thank you so much. To be honest I was terrified to check responses but yours made me glad I did. My birds would appreciate that you think they're gorgeous <span class="lia-unicode-emoji" title=":red_heart:">❤️</span> Mon, 29 Mar 2021 05:50:50 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/grief-and-loss/loss-of-one-of-the-only-family-members-i-have-left-sheer-guilt/m-p/521181#M4206 SapphireDreams 2021-03-29T05:50:50Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/grief-and-loss/loss-of-one-of-the-only-family-members-i-have-left-sheer-guilt/m-p/521182#M4207 <P>Hi SapphireDreams,</P> <P>Thank you for sharing something so personal with us.</P> <P>You don't have anything to feel bad for, these are just natural emotions of grief when someone passes away. I know your grandfather loved you, and will be looking over you. Stay strong for him, as your happiness is his everything now.</P> <P>Let us know of any updates with how your feeling.</P> <P>Regards,</P> <P>CC</P> Mon, 29 Mar 2021 06:00:54 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/grief-and-loss/loss-of-one-of-the-only-family-members-i-have-left-sheer-guilt/m-p/521182#M4207 CalmCat 2021-03-29T06:00:54Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/grief-and-loss/loss-of-one-of-the-only-family-members-i-have-left-sheer-guilt/m-p/521183#M4208 <P>Hi SapphireDreams.</P> <P>You're welcome, and thank you for the kind words back, that means a lot. I'm glad it meant a lot to you too and I could somehow help, that means a lot to me aswell. I can understand being anxious and terrified to check the responses but it's all good, this is a safe, friendly, caring, non judgemental, moderated place, so you're all good. And yes they are gorgeous</P> Mon, 29 Mar 2021 07:14:29 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/grief-and-loss/loss-of-one-of-the-only-family-members-i-have-left-sheer-guilt/m-p/521183#M4208 Guest_4643 2021-03-29T07:14:29Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/grief-and-loss/loss-of-one-of-the-only-family-members-i-have-left-sheer-guilt/m-p/521184#M4209 <P>Hi Sapphire Dreams</P> <P>i am very sorry to hear of your loss and accept my condolences.</P> <P>yes the pain will always remain I fully understand what you must be feeling. Share memories of him with family and friends. Talk about it to friends.</P> <P>Get involved in something you like to do so your mind is occupied .</P> <P>Stay strong .</P> Thu, 20 May 2021 00:04:35 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/grief-and-loss/loss-of-one-of-the-only-family-members-i-have-left-sheer-guilt/m-p/521184#M4209 Philomena 2021-05-20T00:04:35Z