https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/grief-and-loss/was-widowed-1994-trigger-warning-sexual-abuse/m-p/397242#M2865 <P>Hi all,</P> <P> In 1994, I was widowed when my then wife had breast cancer. 6 mths later my then girlfriend found out that my 6yo daughter had been molested by a friend of my late wife who was living with us. For at least 3 mths after, I experienced what I call Emotional Tsunamis; experiencing an interchanging wide range of emotions on a daily basis (at extreme levels). I never had any counselling as it wasn't available in my town or area back then, although I wrote heaps of poetry and later music to try and release pent up emotions. Though I happily remarried in 1997 (still going strong), to this day, I get easily irritated by things or situations not going right, or not working. With people I am fine and couldn't be more patient and accepting.<BR /> <BR /> Is this irritation (and it can cause me to complain, curse and sometimes swear) a hangover from 1994? How do I deal with it as it sometimes irritates those around me?</P> Sat, 19 Jan 2019 02:42:20 GMT widowed1994 2019-01-19T02:42:20Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/grief-and-loss/was-widowed-1994-trigger-warning-sexual-abuse/m-p/397242#M2865 <P>Hi all,</P> <P> In 1994, I was widowed when my then wife had breast cancer. 6 mths later my then girlfriend found out that my 6yo daughter had been molested by a friend of my late wife who was living with us. For at least 3 mths after, I experienced what I call Emotional Tsunamis; experiencing an interchanging wide range of emotions on a daily basis (at extreme levels). I never had any counselling as it wasn't available in my town or area back then, although I wrote heaps of poetry and later music to try and release pent up emotions. Though I happily remarried in 1997 (still going strong), to this day, I get easily irritated by things or situations not going right, or not working. With people I am fine and couldn't be more patient and accepting.<BR /> <BR /> Is this irritation (and it can cause me to complain, curse and sometimes swear) a hangover from 1994? How do I deal with it as it sometimes irritates those around me?</P> Sat, 19 Jan 2019 02:42:20 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/grief-and-loss/was-widowed-1994-trigger-warning-sexual-abuse/m-p/397242#M2865 widowed1994 2019-01-19T02:42:20Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/grief-and-loss/was-widowed-1994-trigger-warning-sexual-abuse/m-p/397243#M2866 <P>Hi and welcome</P> <P>I think you could do with some counseling for sure as it helped me back in 1987 and I still refer to what I was taught way back then, those moments when you weren't taught when young what to say or do. Cognitive deficiency.</P> <P>But I'd like to list a few threads that could help. Use google</P> <P>Beyondblue topic running around trying to save the world</P> <P>Beyondblue topic worry worry worry</P> <P>Beyondblue topic the frog and the scorpion</P> <P>Beyondblue topic who cries over spilt milk?</P> <P>There are thousands more. Repost anytime</P> <P>TonyWK</P> Sat, 19 Jan 2019 03:44:47 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/grief-and-loss/was-widowed-1994-trigger-warning-sexual-abuse/m-p/397243#M2866 white knight 2019-01-19T03:44:47Z