topic Adolescence as a second generation immigrant in Multicultural experiences

Adolescence as a second generation immigrant

op1996 — Sun, 10 Dec 2017 13:41:06 GMT

Hi guys, I will be talking my high school experience in Australia- how I adapted & coped with cultural difference. As an adolescent my mental health was at risk due to social and hormonal change, as well as the high need for a sense of belonging. I first came to Australia when I was 15 year old (year 10) on my own for school. Not going to lie, it was very hard at the beginning as my English was still not proficient and I was one of the few Asians in a mostly caucasians school. I was extremely insecure of my English and that was one of the reason and that was one of the reason why I developed social anxiety & a irrational fear of people. I was too scared to even talk because I feared that my peers would judge my English so I was a very quiet kid. My lack of self esteem led to a whole lot of loneliness, self loathing and eventually it led to other problems as well. My grades started to drop because I could not concentrate in class, I started having insomnia, gained a lot of weight which did not help my crippling teenage insecurity. I did not have any friend whom I could talk to and I did not want to make my parents from Vietnam worry so I would lie and told them that I was having a good time. I also did not seek any sort of professional help.

Eventually I started having suicidal thoughts and that was when I realised that my symptoms were more severe than just teenage blues. I researched and educated myself on depression/ anxiety & started to form a list of coping strategies that I forced my self to stick to. I had a journal of all the positive 'to do' things in the list each day and rewarded myself with compliments every time I completed the lists.The strategies consists of improving my overall health such as exercising and having a better diet. It took me about a month to started having better self care habits and the positive reinforcement from accomplishing the every day list made me feel much more confident and better.

Towards the end of high school I had a much more positive mentality and my life tended to have an upward spiral from there. I got over my language insecurity & became more assertive, which led me to get out of my shell and experience the positive things in life. I will have another post focusing on my coping strategies and how I shifted my mind set from negativity to positivity. I regretted not seeking professional or social help because I reckoned that It would made my recovery a lot easier.

Adolescence as a second generation immigrant

james1 — Wed, 13 Dec 2017 00:27:10 GMT

hey op1996,

Your experiene has been pretty similar to mine.

I was born here and was one of 3 asian people (I'm chinese) in 100 kids at kindergarten. I don't remember much, but apparently I was so shy that they put me in ESL to learn English because I never spoke, despite me being completely fluent. I've always felt like an outsider in both cultures, and this probably had a lot to do with it.

Over 25 years, I also never sought professional help and never told anyone about how I struggled. Last year I started seeing a psychologist for the first time and while there's been a lot of changes already, I know there's a lot more I need to work on in terms of figuring out who I am culturally.

It sounds like you did develop a lot of good self-care strategies which is wonderful! From someone who knows how hard it is, just wanted to send you a quick congratulations on doing so much on self-development!

James

Adolescence as a second generation immigrant

J_M_12345 — Wed, 13 Dec 2017 02:50:40 GMT

Hi op1996,

Wow, that's actually quite a remarkable story, and it's really inspiring to see that your mental health is now a lot better. It must have been very tough for you going through high school AND having to deal with the struggles of migration. I think you will find that those strategies you learnt will stick with you through life, and will be a toolbox that you can use whenever things get tough again.

Again, really inspiring to read your post.

Josette xx

Adolescence as a second generation immigrant

op1996 — Wed, 13 Dec 2017 14:37:49 GMT

Thanks James! Good on you for making a decision to seek professional help & I am glad that you're seeing changes! It is a slow process but it looks like you have a positive mentality about it. All the best (:

Adolescence as a second generation immigrant

op1996 — Wed, 13 Dec 2017 14:40:12 GMT

Thanks Jossette!

It wasn't easy at the start but I am coping well as of now. I am becoming more confident everyday (: