topic The Moment of Realisation in Sexuality and gender identity

The Moment of Realisation

Billiee — Tue, 04 Aug 2020 00:29:09 GMT

Hi Beautiful People,

Coming out is a very different experience for everyone for various reasons which can be positive and negative.

But I'd like to hear about your 'light bulb' moments and when you were able to look back and think 'ohhh this is why i felt jealous of my best friend making new friends or this is why I used to become introvert in the girls locker room'.

I say ask this because I have found peace and clarity in thinking back to those moments with the knowledge I have today and knowing that I wasn't crazy, It was just at that time in life I hadn't grown into my true self yet.

Billiee xx

The Moment of Realisation

lonelyglassesgirl — Mon, 10 Aug 2020 07:46:11 GMT

I think I was always attracted to women (I remember having mini crushes and feeling weird/bad about it during childhood), but I think a moment of realisation was when I watched the Matrix when I was 17, and Trinity and Neo kissed, and I recognised that I felt jealous of Neo. I was still religious then, so it was another few years before I accepted my sexuality, even to myself, and I'm still not out to my family. Although I have hinted to my brother, and I suspect he suspects.

The Moment of Realisation

CalmCat — Mon, 10 Aug 2020 08:32:06 GMT

Hi Billiee,

What a great threat you've started, my hat goes off to you.

I'm 34 and came out at 17, and can I say it was hard back then. I was bullied so much at high school for being who I am. But now the high school I went to has a Pride Wall... how times have changed.

With coming out to family, I stagnated that to partners, aunties and uncles; it wasn't o hard.

I can't wait to see what other people post.

regards,

Doz

The Moment of Realisation

Billiee — Tue, 11 Aug 2020 11:30:46 GMT

Thank you for sharing your experiences Doz & Lonelyglassesgirl.

Everyone has such a unique story. I love seeing the world reform, we have come such a long way.

I moved away from my home town when i was 18 and lost contact with my best friend and i then went back one year and messaged her to meet up and when she walked in the room i just had this feeling of 'oh shit' because at that moment i realised i'd had feelings for her all those years which i can look back and laugh now.

All of these little passed moments that are really comforting now i believe are so important to reflect on.

lonelyglassesgirl that must be hard for you. If you don't mind me asking, what religion does your family practice ?

Doz i'm happy to hear that you're in a good place with your sexuality.

Billiee