https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/sexuality-and-gender-identity/i-d-like-a-relationship-but-i-haven-t-found-the-right-person-yet/m-p/339107#M3336 <P>Hi again Doonacloud, </P> <P>I just replied to one of your other posts. Depression and relationships can be difficult. Some people understand depression while others have no idea what it is all about.</P> <P>The best thing you can do is to be yourself. Some people will stick around, others may well run away from you.</P> <P>I have a couple of close friends whom I can share how I am feeling. My husband is not interested and does not want to know. I have realised he is not there for me in that respect. So I need to care for myself and not expect him to be there for me.</P> <P>Once I understood he did not understand my depression in a way it made the relationship easier. Like you can not get lemon juice out of an orange, I can't get understanding out of my husband.</P> <P>A psychologist told me not to expect other people to take care of me or make me happy. If I don't expect those things then I won't be disappointed.</P> <P>I try to find ways to make my life how I want it to be. It is not always easy though.</P> <P>Cheers to you from Mrs. Dools</P> Fri, 26 May 2017 07:31:58 GMT Doolhof 2017-05-26T07:31:58Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/sexuality-and-gender-identity/i-d-like-a-relationship-but-i-haven-t-found-the-right-person-yet/m-p/339106#M3335 <P>I've been depressed for as long as I can remember, and I haven't been able to keep a relationship for more than a couple of years. I love being in a healthy, loving relationship, but I tend to push my partner away when I'm especially depressed, and I often feel like nobody understands me.</P> <P>I have a really loving, supportive family, and a solid group of friends I've known since high school, and that helps ward off the loneliness, but it's just not the same as being in a relationship. Although I identify as bisexual, I've only ever been in relationships with men.</P> <P>How do you form that intimate connection with someone when you're depressed and want to shut everyone out? How do you make yourself vulnerable without dumping a load of mental health issues on someone? </P> Fri, 26 May 2017 04:12:50 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/sexuality-and-gender-identity/i-d-like-a-relationship-but-i-haven-t-found-the-right-person-yet/m-p/339106#M3335 doonacloud 2017-05-26T04:12:50Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/sexuality-and-gender-identity/i-d-like-a-relationship-but-i-haven-t-found-the-right-person-yet/m-p/339107#M3336 <P>Hi again Doonacloud, </P> <P>I just replied to one of your other posts. Depression and relationships can be difficult. Some people understand depression while others have no idea what it is all about.</P> <P>The best thing you can do is to be yourself. Some people will stick around, others may well run away from you.</P> <P>I have a couple of close friends whom I can share how I am feeling. My husband is not interested and does not want to know. I have realised he is not there for me in that respect. So I need to care for myself and not expect him to be there for me.</P> <P>Once I understood he did not understand my depression in a way it made the relationship easier. Like you can not get lemon juice out of an orange, I can't get understanding out of my husband.</P> <P>A psychologist told me not to expect other people to take care of me or make me happy. If I don't expect those things then I won't be disappointed.</P> <P>I try to find ways to make my life how I want it to be. It is not always easy though.</P> <P>Cheers to you from Mrs. Dools</P> Fri, 26 May 2017 07:31:58 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/sexuality-and-gender-identity/i-d-like-a-relationship-but-i-haven-t-found-the-right-person-yet/m-p/339107#M3336 Doolhof 2017-05-26T07:31:58Z