topic I got hurt: Transgender woman. in Sexuality and gender identity

I got hurt: Transgender woman.

ink6543 — Mon, 09 Oct 2017 03:17:57 GMT

Hello.

I have not posted before .

My situation is I am getting depressed because some people spread gossip about me which was stating I was a "danger to child safety."

I am transgender and for this to be done to me is very bad especially in a small town.

I got hurt: Transgender woman.

geoff — Mon, 09 Oct 2017 16:54:43 GMT

hello Ink, I know that this shouldn't happen so I'm very sorry, but perhaps it's their way of trying to antagonise you which should never happen to anyone, however what it is doing is causing depression and if you want to stay in this town it may only get worse.
I know having to move is what we don't want to do because it involves so much that we have to do, but when it comes to our mental health then perhaps it's something to think about doing. Geoff.

I got hurt: Transgender woman.

demonblaster — Tue, 10 Oct 2017 00:33:34 GMT

That's awful Ink, sorry to hear that

Sounds like small town small minds with some. How nasty.

Do you have some good friends there or family on your side?

I have little time for small minded people. Do feel for you

I got hurt: Transgender woman.

Just Sara — Tue, 10 Oct 2017 03:30:54 GMT

Hi and welcome to our caring community Ink;

Transition for transgendered individuals is difficult enough without dealing with gossip as spiteful and ignorant as you've mentioned. It's a 'learned' coping mechanism to let these comments go and focus on self as a priority, otherwise it can eat away at your soul.

I was given a visualisation once that's stuck with me ever since. It goes like this;

'Imagine you're standing in a large room in the middle of a circle of one hundred people all looking at you. Who do you please or listen to? See yourself turning round and round trying to think of ways to satisfy all 100. Who's the only person important enough to focus on in that room?'

It is of course 'you'! We can't please all of the people all of the time, and most are irrelevant to our life as a positive influence anyway. When I did this visualisation, I didn't even see faces; I saw bodies surrounding me. Strangers who I'd been trying to cope with leaving myself open to all sorts of rubbish.

The only person in that room who I could totally please was me. That realisation helped me immensely to understand I'm not super human; just a vulnerable woman in a room of strangers. It's the one's who stick by us regardless of our origins, choices or orientation that's worth our love and focus.

Being surrounded by small town mentality requires a stoic constitution and for some, it means moving on. The world is your oyster hun...you're a pearl who might just be ready to leave her shell that doesn't meet your needs anymore.

I welcome you with open arms and hope I've created an opportunity for a discussion you'd like to engage in. I'm excited to have you here to voice your pain and hopefully help you discover a strength you might not have known existed.

Kind thoughts;

Sez x

I got hurt: Transgender woman.

Raynor — Sat, 21 Oct 2017 05:28:30 GMT

hey ink.. i'm so sorry. that's seriously f-wrong but knowing that doesn't make it easier to deal with. i'm ftm, dealing with some of the same kind of stuff but not in a small town. there are good people here, hope you keep posting.

rayne