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Share a microaggression.

justinok — Tue, 10 Nov 2015 03:50:34 GMT

Microaggressions are like paper cuts, they are the little bits of shit we have to put up with everyday. The people saying them might not even realise how hurtful or dismissive they are actually being. I thought I might share some sexuality based ones that I have heard, maybe you might like to share some too that have wound you up:

1. Being told that I am like "one of the girls" because I'm a gay man

2. Having my sexual orientation referred to as my sexual "preference"

3. Being told that I don't look or sound "gay" and having that intended as a compliment

4. Why isn't there a "straight pride" parade?

5. On if I ever got to marry my partner, which one of us would wear the dress

Share a microaggression.

Paul — Tue, 10 Nov 2015 11:13:57 GMT

Hey justinok

These microagressions suck! quite obviously dished out by ill informed, but well meaning straight people.

1. You'll make someone a great housewife one day

2. (I'm a member of a few sewing and embroidery groups on facebook) "Hi Ladies what do you think about..." I usually respond with "Well this lady reckons that ..." I'm close to posting a public message in the groups explaining that it was actually men who invented the sewing machine, men who sew are called "Tailors" and when you have something made especially it's called "Tailoring" Grrr

3. Oh Paul's gay - he'll know

4. "That's so gay"

5. Oh my God, boys sewing. What next?

6. So in a gay relationship, who is the girl and who is the guy? Response: Do you mean who is sexually giving and who is receiving - do you really want to know? I'll explain it in great detail for you if you like because it can vary from person to person and some people it depends on their mood. *silence*

Paul

Share a microaggression.

Gruffudd — Tue, 10 Nov 2015 12:22:48 GMT

When people stop their conversation about heterosexual things or their relationships or children when I enter the room assuming that it will make me uncomfortable.