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My parents refuse to believe in anxiety

Mr__kipper — Thu, 19 Jan 2017 09:06:10 GMT

Hi?

i am 13 years old and have been diagnosed with anxiety for two years but for some reason my parents haven't done anything about it which is pretty unnerving they have been making me do stuff like talk to people I don't know to "break my habits" which inevitably makes me cry and wonder what the hell is wrong with me while they get angry and blame screen time almost entirely taking away BB which has started to become a coping mechanism (crying rn)

im sorry if I have been posting too much and for my total fail at punctuation.

mr. Kip

My parents refuse to believe in anxiety

laurajayne74 — Thu, 19 Jan 2017 10:13:14 GMT

Hi there,

I'm so sorry to hear about your difficulties communicating with your parents regarding your anxiety - it definitely doesn't make the situation any easier.

I can really empathise with your situation as well, as my parents have difficulty understanding the nature of anxiety too. Often they are dismissive - everyone has anxiety, or offload their worries as if they're more important than mine etc. It's über frustrating!

I'll just say that your anxiety is real and valid to you and THATS ALL THAT MATTERS

Have you thought about seeing your school counsellor? That way you can get support without judgement (and your parents don't even need to know)

Alternatively, you could go see your family GP with your parents? Maybe they can explain it in more technical terms?

Hope you're okay and thanks for reaching out 🙂

My parents refuse to believe in anxiety

blondguy — Thu, 19 Jan 2017 10:15:43 GMT

Hello Mr Kipper

you have great strength by posting and good on you.

Anxiety is no different to a physical health issue. It can be a disorder that needs your GP's treatment.

If its okay....can I ask you what symptoms you have that make you feel the way you do?

Ive used to have mega anxiety for years until I had it treated by my doc....Anxiety is bad news.

From what I have read your parents have made you "talk to people you dont know to break your habits"?

If its a doctor or a psychologist its fine as many nice people like yourself here do need to speak to a counselor now and again.

Your spelling isnt important here Mr Kip. Your well being is all that matters.

The Beyond Blue Forums are a Safe and non judgmental place where you can say whats on your mind Mr Kip...I hope you can stick around and talk about your symptoms or even how you feel. Even a school counselor is a cool idea too

I do know that you are sad....I hope you let us help you 🙂

my kind thoughts

Paul

My parents refuse to believe in anxiety

kanga_brumby — Thu, 19 Jan 2017 10:20:00 GMT

Mr kip your parents have your best interests at heart. At your age this can be a pain in the proverbial. They are trying to get you to talk to people I guess to get you to get your feelings out I guess. And not rely on the computer. They don't know any one on BB. They are scared we will give bad advice. Or try to trick you some how, and make things worse for you or them. All I can advise is try it your parents way. To reassure them that you are doing it the right way. Plus you are doing the right thing. It's not easy. You have to keep on trying you will get there.

Kanga

My parents refuse to believe in anxiety

BballJ — Thu, 19 Jan 2017 12:17:18 GMT

Hi Mr.Kipper,

Sounds like as Paul said above that you may have been speaking to a counsellor or doctor regarding your anxiety, which isn't a bad thing and they do help you to understand your anxiety... are you still seeing this person?

They do seem to have your best interests at heart as Kanga_brumby said above, I'm also glad you find Beyond Blue helpful as its take a lot of courage to post here... best thing you can do is keep your head up and remain positive and tackle this anxiety head on.

My best for you,

Jay

My parents refuse to believe in anxiety

Mr__kipper — Fri, 20 Jan 2017 03:26:18 GMT

Hi jay

strangely shortly after being diagnosed I stopped seeing my doctor in fact I stopped seing anyone which is quite confusing. I think I will try seeking my school counsellor once the holiday of doom finishes

thank you so much for replying

kip

My parents refuse to believe in anxiety

Mr__kipper — Fri, 20 Jan 2017 03:40:12 GMT

Hi Paul

thank you so much for replying!

Ummm I'm not really sure what you mean by my symptoms if you mean like super-insane-fast-heart-beating and stuff? I'm being silly now

and yeah my parents have been making me do stuff that involves talking to people like buying stuff or things like asking people for directions if I'm on a holiday which normally ends in tears and I started dying in my hole of doom

Thank you again

kip

My parents refuse to believe in anxiety

BballJ — Tue, 24 Jan 2017 11:42:12 GMT

Hi Mr. kipper,

Please do start seeing someone again, it seemed it made a difference for you and will for the future, that is one thing I wish i started earlier in my life, speaking to someone about my anxiety.

My best,

Jay

My parents refuse to believe in anxiety

blondguy — Wed, 25 Jan 2017 01:27:13 GMT

Hi Kip!

Thanks heaps for posting back 🙂

Jay has really said everything spot on.

Sorry about my jargon with 'symptoms'...I just meant the racing heart and the crappy feelings that you may have

I think you are a really strong and smart person to have posted in the first place..Like Jay said I wish I had the guts you have by doing something about my anxiety when I was in younger.

Great move with the school counselor too! You have everything to gain and nothing to lose by doing so 🙂

Really good to have you on the forums too Kip 🙂

Paul