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Alone and falling apart

Nekomata-chan — Sun, 08 Feb 2015 06:48:33 GMT

Hi first post here,

I was diagnosed with major depression last year after my grandfather passed away due to stage 4 cancer. It's been really hard for me since he was the only one who really encouraged me especially with my art. Recently I've felt like I've been spiralling down into that dark place again. I'm on medication but while it worked alright in the beginning, I don't feel like it's working anymore, but my doctor just left me on it. My significant other hasn't really been helping me much if at all, recently he's been ignoring me when I need him the most. I've unfortunately relapsed with self harming and I' m terrified that it might start getting worse and worse. I guess I would like some advice. I feel so alone and confused.

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Alone and falling apart

CrashCoyote — Mon, 09 Feb 2015 05:13:33 GMT

Hi JillMcCloud,

It sound like you are going through a really rough time. I know you are getting some support from the site moderators but I just wanted to wish you a bit of happiness and support, to let you know you are important and even strangers (like me) care about what happens to you.

I will look out for your posts.

Kind regards, John.

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White_Rose — Mon, 09 Feb 2015 06:51:55 GMT

Hello Jill

Welcome to Beyond Blue and thanks for your post. It is always painful when someone we love passes away, even when we know it's going to happen. Please accept my condolences.

Have you returned to your doctor recently. It's probably a good idea to check in with him/her both about the medication and how you are feeling. Antidepressants don't cure depression, or not often anyway. They help your brain to function more clearly and help you to absorb information and use it to get better. In a way it's like take a painkiller for a headache. You will find it difficult to function with the headache so the the med removes it. Meds don't actually make you function any differently to the way you would normally act. But they do help your brain to get back to a good place.

It is sad that you partner is not supporting you as well as you hoped. Many people find this difficult as they do not understand depression. The common reaction is to say, get over it, pull yourself together, it's all in your mind. Well of course it's in your mind but won't go by wishful thinking.

I suggest you look through the tabs at the top of the page and find the information about depression. Beyond Blue will send whatever you want to you. There is information for family and friends to help them understand what is happening to others. Perhaps you could give this to your partner. It may help.

You may also need more assistance than taking medication. Have you thought of going to a psychologist? Have a chat to your doctor about it. I think you may still be grieving for your grandfather and could do with the opportunity to talk about it.

I see the BB team have contacted you. Please phone them if you are feeling really bad. they are there for you 24/7. Also write in here as often as you wish. Many folk find it is good to be able to vent in a safe place, and this is certainly a safe place.

Hope to hear from you again.

Mary

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Nekomata-chan — Wed, 11 Feb 2015 01:57:09 GMT

I'd like to thank both of you for you're replies, kind words and bits of advice. I am going to be going to see my doctor soon, so I'll be able to inquire about the medication and ask for her to direct me to a psychologist she's happy with and I'm definitely going to be going through the tabs. Thank you again!

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White_Rose — Tue, 17 Feb 2015 07:37:38 GMT

Hello Jill

My apologies for not replying sooner. I usually follow up but life catches up with you from time to time.

So pleased you found the responses helpful and that you are going to see your GP. If you feel like it I would love to hear how the GP visit went. And also if your doctor recommended a psychologist.

One of the most helpful things I have found is being able to talk about the miserable and scary things in life. And depression is certainly up there. Having someone who understands how you feel, understands what you mean by falling apart and is able to help you get to a more secure place is one of life's bonuses. It has certainly been my experience.

I will leave this as a short post and wait to hear how you are going. Remember we all care for you here and you are not alone. Been there, done that, got the tee shirt should be our motto.

Big hugs

Mary

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White_Rose — Sat, 21 Feb 2015 03:37:50 GMT

Hello Jill

This is a quick check in to see how you are going. I hope all is well with you and that you will feel able to write in again.

Cheers

Mary