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Anyone wanna chat? Forget about our problems for a little

Ldog — Thu, 30 Oct 2014 08:38:00 GMT

Hiya! I'm new to BB and this is my first post!

My name is Lauren 🙂

I've been going through pretty bad anxiety at the monent, but I want to put that aside for now and meet some new people.

A little about myself:

I live in SE QLD

I'm shy, but like meeting new people!

I love listening to music, stuff on Triple J

I'm a gamer

I'm interested in psychology/philosophy

I'm eager to meet some new people 🙂

Thanks for reading 🙂

(I don't know how to turn off double spacing, sorry haha)

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Liam007 — Thu, 30 Oct 2014 23:45:47 GMT

Hi Lauren, welcome to the beyondblue forums.

I just want to let you know some important things.

First of all, post here and talk as often as you wish. We are all here to support one another. The second thing is that you should never be afraid to be honest.

Glad you've decided to join the beyondblue forums, hope you like it here.

I'm always up for a chat, I've had some similar experiences to what you have listened, I'm here for you and will do my best to offer you support.

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white knight — Fri, 31 Oct 2014 00:55:59 GMT

Hi Lauren, thankyou for posting.

You cant turn off double spacing- its the nature of the program. So like I am now just keep typing unless you want to make a new paragraph like I am will now.

This site is anonymous but many people treat each other here like close cyber friends. Some have ongoing issues, others are more recovered or stable but have relapses, we are all so diverse.

If you are interested in psych stuff here is the place. Do heaps of reading and welcome again.

Tony WK

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dougall — Fri, 31 Oct 2014 01:55:43 GMT

welcome, gaming and philosophy wow nice combination.

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HA1 — Fri, 31 Oct 2014 02:09:06 GMT

Hi Ldog

Like the others I also welcome you to BB. You will find many who are willing to chat with you, from all age groups and backgrounds. I think you will enjoy the experience.

i also enjoy philosophy - do you have a favourite text or author?

Look forward to hearing more from you.

take care

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Ldog — Fri, 31 Oct 2014 09:42:30 GMT

Hey all

I didn't expect such a response! Thank you all!

I just realised this for people aged 18 and below, but I'm sure 2 years won't matter that much 🙂

Hideaway, I guess I'd call myself a deep thinker rather than someone who reads blogs and books, but I would read books on it.

Anyways, does anyone have any tips on how to make friends? I don't think I'm someone who wants to have a billion friends, but a few would be nice hehe.

I know that you have to BE a friend to make friends, but I think I'm a pretty nice person. I'm probably just looking in the wrong places.

I was pretty much a loner in high school (I was pretty popular in primary school), but now that I'm not in school anymore, I'm on my own when it comes to making friends.

It's easier to talk to people and make friends online because people judge the way I am, not the way I look.

Thank you all for reading my life story 🙂

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Doolhof — Fri, 31 Oct 2014 21:47:11 GMT

Hi Ldog,

Thanks so much for this post. It is wonderful to have something positive to read and share in. A lot of people using this site have so many problems, and that is why we are all here! We are all looking for answers and for a place to feel like we fit in.

You are a breathe of fresh air so to speak!

Regarding making friends, do you have any hobbies or interests? Can you join some sort of group to meet new people? You mentioned you have left school, do you work? Are there people you can start just saying "hello" to and see where that takes you?

My husband and I moved to a new town 2 years ago. I joined the local Country Fire Service to meet new people. The brigade has both male and female and people aged from 18 to 70. I have also joined a local Church and have made friends there. If I wasn't working I would join a craft group and do some volunteering in something I really enjoyed.

Think outside the box and see what you come up with.

All the best, from Mrs. Dools

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dreh — Fri, 31 Oct 2014 23:36:26 GMT

Hey there 🙂

I'm in year 12 and I have just gone through a period where I was excluded by my group of friends after being friends with them all through primary school, and now a couple of weeks before graduation I don't have them any more. But I read your post and thought it would be good to talk to you because I thought what you have posted about yourself is similar to me.

I'm really interested in psychology and am hopefully going to study it next year at uni with exercise science. I'm really interested in music therapy and how music affects the brain. I've always thought it ironic how I want to help people get through their problems when I can't get through my own, but that's okay.

On making friends, I'm pretty reserved and I don't know how to really make friends because I've had the same ones all my life. But I always found that if you act like you would to a best friend to a random stranger then they are more friendly towards you. I only say this because I managed to make some new friends by being really crazy and I wouldn't usually do this with strangers because I'm really shy, but I guess I half knew them already so it was easier. But you can make friends anyway. I recently befriended one of the international students at my school all because I remembered his name, and no other Australian person at my school had been able to do that. So you can meet friends anywhere just through a little bit of kindness.

I think I've given you more of a life story than you did so I hope you read all of it. I wrote a lot because I don't have anyone to talk to at the moment and it's a lot easier to post online because like you said, people don't judge you, especially on this site, and actually I didn't realise how much I wrote.

Anyway, I need to wrap this up, sorry for writing so much.

Dreh 🙂

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geoff — Fri, 31 Oct 2014 23:59:47 GMT

dear Lauren, I did reply to you but our old mate appeared, it's 'system error' where it's been n underlying bug that has persisted on the site for a long time and the Moderators are trying to find out why it keeps coming back, sounds like when you have depression, so if it does happen for you or Dreh then you can type the person's name or their user name in the search bar, or go back to All Posts where you will find it in one of the sections, but try and paste/copy your reply before you press Reply.Already you have raised some extra comments, so it's great for the both of you to have joined us, because having young people join us is always good. Geoff.

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Ldog — Sat, 01 Nov 2014 11:58:38 GMT

Hi Dreh!

Wow...I didn't think anyone else had the same interests as me! A few weeks ago I was thinking about music and how it affects people, so I guess that's something we both like.

And yes, us wanting to study psychology is pretty ironic, even though I'm not that interested in counselling, but it's still ironic!

I think I'm the first person to say this, but I miss school 😞 I don't miss the other students; I had ONE good friend. But I loved the routine! I'm working at Endeavour at the moment, and I've met a few cool people, but I feel left out since most of the people there have an intellectual disability (I'm nice to people, of course! But I'm the odd one out). Don't get me started on my "disability"...which is epilepsy apparently (I've never really believed it hehe)

Anyways, I think that's enough text for now 🙂 Thanks for replying!

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Ldog — Sat, 01 Nov 2014 12:15:41 GMT

Hello Doolhof!

I have looked for social clubs in my town, but I haven't found anything really suited for me, so I think my best bet is meeting people through work or old school chums I haven't had contact with in a few years.

A church group might be a good place to find young people. I went to some Friday night youth group about 4 years ago, which was ok until they started praying hehe. I'm not a religious person at all, but I've been thinking maybe I should open up a bit more.

I knew a really religious girl at school, and she obviously hated me, plus whenever she was around while I was talking to another friend of mine, if I said "oh my god" she would start harassing me for it. It even happened when I said "heaven."

Anyways, I shouldn't be putting anyone down, or their religion. I was out in town the other day feeling the worst anxiety I've ever experienced, and I was so close to going into the nearby church...which is just a bookshop according to my grandmother.

I won't waste anymore of your time! Thank you for your help 🙂

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geoff — Sat, 01 Nov 2014 13:37:33 GMT

dear Lauren, unfortunately I'm an epileptic as well, it's under control, but the medication has changed my life in times of making me really tired.

All it took was for two bikies to attack me from behind, maybe 2 or 3 seconds it lasted and what it has done to my life now. Geoff.

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Ldog — Sun, 02 Nov 2014 03:32:58 GMT

Hey Geoff

I'm sorry to hear that! Some people don't deserve to live on planet Earth with the rest of us.

I stopped taking my meds a few months ago, and there's no difference at all. Quite the mystery!

Lauren

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Doolhof — Sun, 02 Nov 2014 11:18:56 GMT

Hi Lauren,

Please don't think that you are wasting anyone's time here at Beyond Blue, not mine or anyone else's.

We all have moments where we have plenty to write about, and other times we are happy to just read and make short comments, try to help and offer suggestions of what might help.

I'd just like to say that being a Christian doesn't mean that you don't make mistakes. I know I make plenty of them even though I try to live by Christian principles. When my husband picks me up for doing or saying things he thinks a Christian shouldn't do, I remind him that I am still human and humans mess up.

I hope you are able to connect with people and make new friends or reconnect with some of your old school friends.

Remember too that people can change. Kids who might have ignored you or bullied you at school could now be nice people!

Hoping you find some great mates soon. Cheers, from Mrs. Dools

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Ldog — Sun, 02 Nov 2014 12:08:32 GMT

Reconnecting with old friends is a bit tough since I've moved so many times throughout my childhood, but I can think of a few people I wouldn't mind talking to again.

I thought to myself tonight that maybe I should just stop worrying about it. I'm sure I'll make friends quicker if I'm not thinking about it every day hehe. I have my whole life ahead of me, so I'm sure I'll be fine. It's hard to be alone when I have my monthly anxiety phase (which is over now :))

I really appreciate everyones responses! I'm loving all the support (and also the opportunity to help others)

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megsii — Sun, 02 Nov 2014 12:27:13 GMT

Hi my name is Megsii

Also just signed up on this site, hoping this will help with my list of things wrong with me haha.

I'm currently a trainee as a vet nurse, always interested in art and writing though. I tend to be quite shy also. Music as most people say, is my life, its poetry in a melody. Currently on my way to recovery, still only a teenager, and hoping to as well, make some friends on here maybe.
I'm also a gamer, and not in any way ashamed of it hehe.

I'm also at the beginning of writing a novel, though, my anxiety,OCD and the list goes on haha is preventing me from finishing it, which is my biggest dream!

(Ps. please don't judge the writing i have on here, this is rushed my actual writing isn't like this. Sorry i have to say that, i get really panicky otherwise)

- Megsii

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geoff — Sun, 02 Nov 2014 13:17:15 GMT

dear Lauren, can I ask what type or level of epilepsy you have, as I have 'grand mal' which is the worst. Geoff. x

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Ldog — Mon, 03 Nov 2014 00:35:02 GMT

Hey Megsii, welcome to Beyondblue! We're both noobs 🙂

I'm glad to hear you're on the road to recovery! I've just got over a really bad anxiety phase, and it's like waking up from a bad dream.

What games do you play? What nusic do you listen to?

My two favourite games are WoW and GTA. I love Half Life and The Sims too.

I love listening to alternative/indie stuff, such as stuff they play on Triple j.

Hope to hear from you more!

Lauren

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Ldog — Mon, 03 Nov 2014 00:40:45 GMT

Hey Geoff!

My doctor says it's absence seizures, the neurologist says it's complex partial (according to the EEG it's partial seizures, so I don't know why the doc still thinks it's absence)

But it sounds EXACTLY like simple partial seizures...or panic attacks. Panic attacks make much more sense to me since I have anxiety anyway.

Gotta get back to work now 😞 Hope to hear from you later!

Lauren

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dougall — Mon, 03 Nov 2014 01:01:30 GMT

Hi megsii do you have your own post I can contact you on mine is what am i doing.