topic Anxiety is rising in Young people

Anxiety is rising

Blue_ — Sat, 14 Jun 2014 02:32:43 GMT

Hello,

I've been on beyond blue for a while but I was actually posting on the depression forum. I was diagnosed with depression AND anxiety probably 2 years ago and not done much about it because I'm used to having it but I didn't realise how much of an effect it's had on my life. I had been depressed for quite.a while and didn't really believe that I had anxiety at all but now I just realised I really do have some frustrating symptoms and how does anyone deal with it? I hate being around people and feel like I'm not welcome or wanted and stressing about things and not being able to relax or sleep as well as others. Also I'm so constantly irritable around people or really nervous. I can't hold a job down and the smallest tasks scare me. I feel like I've gotten on top of my depression a bit but if I don't kind of get a grip on this anxiety that I have no hope of the depression not coming back and I actually feel like the anxiety is worse than the depression.

Any tips please? I'm in a room full of 20 people right now like feeling pretty panicked.

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geoff — Sat, 14 Jun 2014 03:24:23 GMT

dear Blue, well anxiety is hooked up to depression, so they go arm in arm, and this is what I was fearful might happen to you, but hey you have indentified this and really this is good.

I think that you are now trying to be involved with other people, so really you are jumping from the pan into the fire, and perhaps too quickly, so what you should do is get yourself used to talking to other people on a one to one basis, or maybe in a small group, say 4 or 5 people, because with 20 people then most of us would be scared as well.

It's like standing up and giving a lecture for the first time to an audience, and unless you have had some training or previous experience, you find it so uncomfortable, your mouth becomes dry, you sweat and anything else that goes along with this.

Hey this is NO reset back from your previous post, and don't take it as such, just pull back a little bit, and remember your slowly improving, and now young lady, ha ha, Rome wasn't built in a day, so don't let this into fear in your progress. L Geoff. x

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Blue_ — Sat, 14 Jun 2014 06:00:06 GMT

Thanks Geoff,

I am getting getter in social situations by force mostly, it's kind of just happening which is good. As far as me being around 20 people at once I can't help it. I'm in a committee thing and we meet up once a month, not too bad but when you start to feel panicked and can't stop thinking about running out of the room and making a scene it's not good haha. I was just wondering if there was something I could do other than thinking it away I guess because I'm not up to that yet.

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--Danny-- — Sat, 14 Jun 2014 07:07:21 GMT

Depression/anxiety/panic....all these horrible feelings....I suffer the rubbish aswell..I feel for ya...u can beat it though!! I did for years!!! but it has slowly crept in again...I think chatting to other people who suffer it helps...chin up blue!!

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Blue_ — Sat, 14 Jun 2014 11:09:48 GMT

Thanks Danny.

i guess it's not going to happen over night! Took bloody long enough for the depression to go away so I just need to be patient I guess. It's hard to think of how I'll get through it when I've always had it. I couldn't imagine not having anxiety haha. Feeling hopeful though 🙂

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--Danny-- — Sat, 14 Jun 2014 11:29:36 GMT

Yeh same here, I've suffered anxiety for ever..my depression is under control but just cant shake anxiety..sometimes it gets too much...what ways do u find the best to deal with anxiety? Any help will be appreciated...

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--Danny-- — Sat, 14 Jun 2014 11:38:49 GMT

Hi blue, this is my first time on bb..I've had these problems all my life...I have never really tried talking about it...I tried ignoring anxiety...it's got a major grip on my life...sometimes it feels like I'm suffocating:(

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Blue_ — Sat, 14 Jun 2014 22:32:27 GMT

It's a pain, isn't it?

I actually don't deal with it at all, I'm newly diagnosed so I'm in the same boat as you and that's why I posted. I was hoping to get some advice from someone else.

I know exactly what you mean though, I've never been able to keep a job for even a year. I'm always tired, I can't focus and I'm terrified of mucking up that it just makes the situation worse. If I had some self esteem it might make it easier but that's something I'm learning from the start as well.

I have a job offer as well and I would love to do it but I'm scared at the same time. I really need help with getting a grip on this or it's going to ruin my life, if I let it of course but I think I need a bit of extra help. I might go to my doctor again.

The hard part is, Danny, you have to be in such a good frame of mind and that's why it took me so long to get out of a depressive slum, there was so much help from others, of course I had something to do with it but it was others that made me happy again. Not sure how that will work with anxiety because it's so different.

I might Google some things Danny, I'll post my findings in a bit and we can work on this together 🙂

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Blue_ — Sat, 14 Jun 2014 23:20:16 GMT

So I did a bit of Googling Danny and we have to start with the obvious. Health, eating well, exercising, no drugs and alcohol/ciggies and finding ways to be relaxed. Far out, I know that last one will be hardest for me, I don't even know what that feels like! Haha.

Professional help like therapy, cognitive behaviour therapy and perhaps medication. I personally don't want medication but I'll try anything at this stage. The good thing about CBT is that was ca start at home, talking positively to ourselves, building our self esteem and ,in my case, from traumatic experiences or our past we have to rose above and know that whatever happened in the past doesn't control our future and we can change. I'm kind of talking to myself with that one haha.

Help from loved ones, if you're not ready to get help like a lot of people on the forum, we're all here for support. It took me months to go to someone I trusted. This all does take time.

Just start with health Dan, it's important to cut down your drinking and eating well and exercising and whatever else. Set yourself a goal, it'll help your self esteem, believe me. Perhaps you might know of someone that's into their fitness that can help you a bit? I'm lucky I live near the GC, fitness freaks everywhere haha. And remember, a little improvement is better than none at all. When I start exercising I went for a ten minute walk just to commit myself to that habit then slowly worked my way up to an hour. Now I'm jogging, I was a fat kid so that's a big thing for me haha.

If you're not ready to go to a doctor (not sure you know about the service here to find a professional in your area that specialises in mental health) that's fine, we're all here to health you along. Took me a while to go for professional help and to my family. I've only told my sister and she's going to break it to the family for me.

Have a good day Dan, we'll talk again soon!

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--Danny-- — Sun, 15 Jun 2014 09:29:39 GMT

Hi blue, thanks for your advice:-) I didn't drink again today...been a week now:-):-) how r u feeling today? We will through the pain of anxiety together...just remember..tough times make tough people!!

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--Danny-- — Sun, 15 Jun 2014 10:12:41 GMT

Hi blu, can u have a quick read over the thread I wrote....stuck in a viscous cycle...its in therapy forum...this thread explains my anxiety...I respect your thoughts & advice

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--Danny-- — Sun, 15 Jun 2014 10:14:44 GMT

Sorry blu, its in treatment forum

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Blue_ — Sun, 15 Jun 2014 23:06:18 GMT

That's really great to hear Danny! Drinking brings you down, it really does. Of course, and thank you. I'll try find it now. 🙂

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--Danny-- — Thu, 19 Jun 2014 08:50:25 GMT

Hi Cas, I'm hoping you had another good day today:-):-)

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Blue_ — Thu, 19 Jun 2014 09:53:59 GMT

Yeah, Dan, I did. Thanks.

Same to you! I hope you're feeling well!

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--Danny-- — Thu, 19 Jun 2014 13:10:49 GMT

Hi Cas, I'm so happy u had a good day...:):)..2 good ones in a row!! Good work mate...I had a good day to..the medication I'm taking is starting to kick in I think?? Side effects are not as bad anymore...but still a bit to much for me...I have to see the doctor on Saturday & get my dosage reduced...I still haven't drank alcohol...hope your having a nice night.

Danny

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Blue_ — Thu, 19 Jun 2014 22:25:29 GMT

That's good to hear Dan.

If you think it'll be for the best. I went to my doctor yesterday and got some medication and something to help me sleep so today is my first day on it. I had a pretty good sleep so I feel a bit better than usual so that's good. I'm trying to get myself in a regular sleeping pattern. I'm so happy for you Dan, no drinking still. Good work. You should be very, very proud of yourself!

Cas

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--Danny-- — Fri, 20 Jun 2014 02:22:21 GMT

Hi Cas, good luck today on the medication! The stuff definately works:-):-) it was my mate's birthday yesterday..everyone drinking & carrying on..I still didn't drink:-) ..Two weeks ago I would've definately drank....for some reason the medication has gave me more confidence in just saying no...not submitting to peer pressure...more mental strength I guess? Not drinking is so much better, it makes me and my family happier..& I can honestly say this improvement has come from starting up on anti depressants again & also jumping onboard BB...I've been on the meds for 11 days now & feel a whole lot better than I did 11 days ago...

I really hope the medication helps you, let me know how your first day goes..

Best of luck

Danny

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faeriedust88 — Fri, 20 Jun 2014 05:01:53 GMT

Hi Blue, I've just read ur posts and c that ur looking for help with your anxiety. Have you tried meditation before? I've been similar to you and have had depression, i'm on top of that now and have been left with anxiety. I've been practicing meditation for the last yr n a half and trust me, the days when I don't meditate are the days where my anxiety is worst. Try start with 10 mins a day, I know some good websites with free meditation downloads - let me know if ur keen to and i'll give you the details, hope your well x

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Blue_ — Sat, 21 Jun 2014 04:39:25 GMT

Hey Dan,

Yeah, day 2 and I'm feeling more positive but exhausted. It's so weird. I need to get used to the medicine though. ITS SO GOOD TO HEAR! You're, benefitting. Your family is benefitting, how great! Such a strong guy. Good on you mate.

Yes Faerie! I've tried meditation but found it really hard to relax and focus on it I guess but I would love to try whatever you have to offer, thank you.

Love Cas ❤️