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Being alone and not feeling lonely

foxy101 — Wed, 27 May 2026 08:26:45 GMT

I have realised recently, I don't know how to be alone and not feel lonely. I use to love being alone but now I only put that emotion with being lonely. I am an introvert and need my alone time, but I don't want to keep draining myself with hanging out with people because I don't want to feel lonely. If you have any tips please help a girl out.

Re: Being alone and not feeling lonely

Psychdiaries2 — Wed, 27 May 2026 23:55:17 GMT

Hi there,

Welcome to the forums and thanks for your post, I'm sure you'll get many different perspectives on here.

I relate to you being introverted and needing alone time. It can be hard when you start to feel lonely and wish you weren't. Something that has helped me is to keep busy and to do things I enjoy. When I am alone, I try to do my hobbies as much as I can, all of which I am very interested in. Maybe you could find some hobbies or tasks to do to keep you busy? It doesn't have to be anything complex or time-consuming, it can be getting lost in a book, cooking, watching a movie, etc. whatever you want. Sometimes just putting on music and dancing in my room makes me feel better haha. It's good to have the balance between hanging out with others and also just spending time alone, so I hope you find that balance today and try and soak it up.

I hope this helps. I think it takes some time to get used to and enjoy being alone rather than feeling lonely. Hope things cheer up a bit and you feel content soon.

Write anytime on here,

PsychDiaries

Re: Being alone and not feeling lonely

therising — Sun, 07 Jun 2026 19:42:53 GMT

The warmest of welcomes to you as you pose a brilliant question, 'How to be alone and not feel lonely?'.

Based on my own experience, I don't feel loneliness when I'm feeling something else. For example, when I'm feeling a sense of wonder and a sense of excitement while doing research on my laptop, I'm not feeling or sensing loneliness. When I'm feeling a sense of entertainment on my own, I'm not feeling or sensing loneliness. When I'm not feeling people around me demanding things of me, I'm sensing peace as opposed to loneliness and the demands of others. 'Sensitives' sense (both an ability and a curse at times, that's for sure😁). As a gal who's a sensitive introvert, I've found some of it comes down to figuring out exactly what it is I want to gain a sense of when I'm on my own. Btw, while I live with a husband and a couple of kids in their 20s, I also sense alone time as a blessing or a gift on occasion😊.

Alone time can also be used as a time of 'release', while releasing stress/tension from the nervous system, muscular system and any other systems that need a form of release or relaxation. To be able to do this uninterrupted can be another blessing. I think it can also help to sense or feel alone time as a liberating choice. We can choose to stretch tension out of our body in a group (yoga class, for example) or choose to stretch it out on our own.

With being a sensitive introvert, it also pays to get a sense or where our inner dialogue's at. For example, if we've got our inner critic brutally going to town on us or some other depressing facet of ourself in play, alone time may not be such a good thing. Pays to go out and find people who'll interrupt that kind of inner dialogue. Alone time definitely requires some skillful management at times. While we can be thinking 'Why am I struggling to master this?', it's worth considering the possibility that nobody taught us how to do it like a master. Never too late to become a master.