topic I'm Looking For A Girlfriend in Young people

I'm Looking For A Girlfriend

Mario_Sonic — Thu, 30 Apr 2026 12:05:54 GMT

Hey everyone. Liam here. I'm 20, soon to be 21, um, the reason I'm posting here is, if anyone doesn't know, I've been trying to get more friends, and after a long time of debating, I realise now that I want a girlfriend, to date, but NOT to have sex with. I want to make that very clear. What I want in a girlfriend is I want someone to hang out with as a very close friend, sort of like my male best friend, I want this girl to be able to come with me to family gatherings or when we visit family, I want someone chatty but also gentle, soft and sweet at the same time, and finally, and this is the most important one, I want to be able to receive hugs from this girl whenever I can.

Re: I'm Looking For A Girlfriend

Red-Gum — Thu, 30 Apr 2026 22:44:12 GMT

Hi Mario,

the need for human connection is normal and everyone wants to be seen and heard. At 20, 60 or 100, you are going to want that.
There are two things you have highlighted- looking for more friends, and seeking a romantic partner.
The first is usually how the second one happens.
Look at groups to join- Parkrun, meetup, social hobbies, and start making connections.
women are people too! Not objects.
If you want someone like your male best mate then think what you like about him, the conversations, respect, reliability. Thats then what you look for.
Women want to feel safe, as most men present a threat to them, so be respectful, never touch her unless asked, don’t comment on how she looks as that is objectifying.
You will find someone- but only if you go out and start mixing in social circles.
There has been a real push to meeting IRL now, speed dating etc, so that’s a good thing as most women I know never go on the apps.
You will be fine.
Cheers,

Red Gum.

Re: I'm Looking For A Girlfriend

Mario_Sonic — Fri, 01 May 2026 02:14:22 GMT

Um mate, my names Liam, not Mario lol. But yeah I see what you mean.

I'm So Happy

Mario_Sonic — Sat, 16 May 2026 00:15:49 GMT

Hey guys! Liam here! After a long struggle with finding a girl mate, I finally found one!!! She's everything I wanted in a girl and I feel like I'm on top of the world right now!!!

Re: I'm So Happy

trying_my_best — Sat, 16 May 2026 12:19:07 GMT

Hi @Mario_Sonic!!!

Congratulations!!! I wish you the best of luck in your new relationship!!!

Re: I'm So Happy

Mario_Sonic — Sat, 16 May 2026 14:43:21 GMT

Appreciate it brother!! 😁

Re: I'm So Happy

Psychdiaries2 — Sun, 17 May 2026 09:13:30 GMT

Hey Liam,

Thanks for sharing this exciting info with us! I'm happy for you and hope things go smoothly!

Kind regards,

PsychDiaries

Re: I'm So Happy

Mario_Sonic — Sun, 17 May 2026 10:13:59 GMT

Thank you

Re: I'm So Happy

Red-Gum — Mon, 18 May 2026 05:22:51 GMT

Fabulous Liam.

I hope all goes well with you and your girlfriend.

Best of luck,

Jennifer

Re: I'm So Happy

Mario_Sonic — Mon, 18 May 2026 05:42:37 GMT

Thank you

I Feel Like I’m Being Ghosted

Mario_Sonic — Tue, 07 Jul 2026 13:37:35 GMT

Hey guys. Liam here. Um so as you guys may know I had a girl mate who was everything I wanted in a girl. Someone who I could hang out with in a similar vein to my best friend, someone who I could chat to, and most importantly someone who could hug me when I needed it. Well it’s been ages since I’ve heard from her. I know she works a lot and she doesn’t get on well with her parents, but I feel like she’s ghosting me…after all that time I spent, trying to find a girl mate, I feel like I’ve lost it…and besides, I will admit, I might be a bit…obsessed with this whole girl mate thing but I just really feel like I need that special person in my life. Let me break it down for you guys.

1. I want a girl who I can have as a close friend and maybe date, if possible, but I’ll cross that bridge when I get there, however I DO NOT, want to have sex with this girl. I’m going to make that very clear!!

2. In terms of personality, I want this girl to be soft, gentle, kind, loving and sweet, but also chatty at the same time.

3. I want this girl to be able to come with me to family gatherings, or at least, be able to meet my family, not just my Nan and Pop, but my aunt, uncles, and cousins who by the way, two of them have a girlfriend and boyfriend respectively.

4. This is the big one. As someone who suffers from nightmares and emotional breakdowns, I want this girl to be able to hold and hug me when I’m sad or upset or crying, I want her to be able to comfort me with lots of physical and verbal comfort, as well as endearments…

Guys…I don’t know what more I can do…I’ve tried everything…but I don’t want to give up… *Crying* 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

Liam

Re: I Feel Like I’m Being Ghosted

Mario_Sonic — Wed, 08 Jul 2026 00:23:53 GMT

Okay so update, I heard from her but if I’m being honest, I just don’t feel like I have that connection to her…

Re: I Feel Like I’m Being Ghosted

white knight — Wed, 08 Jul 2026 03:33:17 GMT

Hi, Liam, welcome

This topic is interesting and I can see why you haven't found the ideal person for you to satisfy your needs.

Let's say that of all the common needs of people are in a circle. The moment our own needs dont fall into that circle we can categorise as over the boundaries of "normal". Now some of these uncommon things are unique and ok like having your own unique hobby you made yourself or unique writing abilities or art. But some will not assist you to fulfill your needs because it involves other people that live within that circle.

When we deal with other humans that live within that circle of common behaviour or desires our own unique needs wont fit like a glove and it needs to in order to develop a normal love life. This is where I see your issue. All ladies out there that desire a lover, a person to fall in love with, would want a sexual relationship as part of the package. To find a "friend" that fits all your criteria but does not include sex and you'll no doubt in my mind, might attract ladies but they wont remain long in your future.

I wonder, why is it (broadly speaking)that you do not want a sexual relationship. Is it worry about performance, a physical issue and if so a GP is the person to seek out.

Because this issue is devastating to you and we here are peer advisors that rely on lived experience and our experiences are likely not to fall into the same issues, I highly recommend a counsellor of GP recommendation to a psychologist. Again I mention, it doesnt mean you are mad or irrational over all, it could be that you have fallen into a sort of unrealistic method of thinking what a relationship entails for most of people, thereby limiting your scope for a chance at a companion and more importantly, that companions ongoing happiness.

By all means reply and we can continue to talk and other might also chip in with ideas.

"I've been labelled quirky, it's not that bad really, but too different separates me from reality and limits me in a human society..."

I hope you are otherwise well.

TonyWK

Re: I Feel Like I’m Being Ghosted

Mario_Sonic — Wed, 08 Jul 2026 04:51:14 GMT

Hey man. I don’t want to have a sexual relationship with a girl because I feel like sexual stuff is disgusting in my opinion.

Re: I Feel Like I’m Being Ghosted

white knight — Wed, 08 Jul 2026 06:37:02 GMT

I understand and accept your feelings. However that leads me back to why most girls wont want a partner with that view and I'd still urge you to seek some clarity of that with a counsellor. Cheers

TonyWK

Re: I Feel Like I’m Being Ghosted

Mario_Sonic — Wed, 08 Jul 2026 10:36:03 GMT

Thx man.