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I'm worried my trauma is affecting my life

Guest_35685715 — Sat, 28 Feb 2026 05:57:49 GMT

I'm in Year 12, moved to Australia just a while ago, and while relived, it's still hard for me. I keep remembering old memories, obsessing over them and struggling to move on. I'm always pulled back to my deep depression afterwards, it makes me feel like I'll never be able to move on. It was only 3 months, but it changed me completely, and no one here understands. Even if I find people that I slightly relate to, maybe they also like the same hobbies, or I find someone queer, maybe someone from my country, but it's not enough. I feel so isolated and lonely, I lost the reason I stayed alive after leaving that place,my friends. I'm scared, I'm losing my connection to the only people who were in that hospital with me, the only people that know me and can make me feel better. I keep thinking, if some are dead or back in the hospital. There were two that I kept reaching out to but rejected me, saying they are going through a difficult time. What happened to them? Are they still suicidal? Should I worry? And what about the others? My only relief comes from a friend who said she's studying in uni to be a psychiatrist. We were in the same room together, and I always worried about her. She went through much more than any other human should, but it's still not the same. I can't meet her, I can't meet anyone. They are so far away. Even if I do, there are fears that a new war will start soon and I might need to cancel my plans. I'm never going back to that horrible country, I refuse to live there, I hate everything about it, but it's still my home, and all my friends are there. What will happen to them? Most of them are struggling. All the friends I went to school with have quit, all for different reasons, but mostly because the school got so much worse after I left. I feel responsible, as someone who always protected them and tried to support them. I abandoned them. In Australia, I've focused so much on myself, I tried to avoid anything uncomfortable, like the friends I left behind. I was worried the truth would be too painful. I enjoy our relationships, but they make me feel comfortable enough, and so I start talking again, about that horrible hospital and that horrible country full of all my worst and best memories. Thinking about my loved ones still there, I know it's hard for them. But I can't support them. I have to protect myself, but I know I can't avoid it, how I left them, how I didn't take care of them when they needed my help. I'm a selfish, bad friend.

Re: I'm worried my trauma is affecting my life

Croix — Tue, 03 Mar 2026 12:52:02 GMT

Dear New Member~

A warm welcome here to the Forum and also to Australia, a very different place from the where you left.

I am guessing however I suspect that if you are in year 12 then you came over with your family who made the decisions - forgive me if I'm wrong. If there had been one war and another was possible I don't think 'came over' is strong enough, I think the word 'escape' is better. It shows it was not a free decision, but one forced by unimaginable circumstances

Yes you left your friends, culture and the country you grew up in and are now in a more secure place. Unless someone had gone though the same experiences you did they are in all probability not going to understand how your feel, what you remember, or how you react. They may not understand why you feel guilty as well as loss.

Trying to cope by yourself is not something you really want to try, no matter if you are a young person, or even if you were adult. You need experienced professional help to assist you cope with your feelings and memories.

In NSW (STARTTS) has launched a multilingual telephone helpline for people impacted by overseas conflicts. I know I said NSW however they do make a big effort to find similar organizations in other states and territories

No doubt they will suggest professional help, both for you and any family that arrived with you.

If you find this does not work out please talk with our friendly councilors who may be able ot point you towards the assistance you need - you do not deserve the thoughts you are experiencing, life can be better.

I'm worried about you and really would like it if you felt like continuing to talk

Croix

Re: I'm worried my trauma is affecting my life

TurnandWake — Wed, 04 Mar 2026 02:33:13 GMT

Heya, I hope my response can help. I was experiencing the impacts of Trauma. I've sought councelling for years and was getting skills to deal with the symptoms but not the root of it. I have discovered EMDR. And it is like a miracle for me that has gotten rid of the actual Trauma. There is a great pod cast called 'toxic silence' hosted by Janella Purcell and there is 1 specifically that explains what EMDR is. Welcome to Oz. (And I don't think you are a bad friend, you are worried about your friends. This is compassion, and it sounds like you are in a difficult situation, can I say, be compassionate to yourself and start a gratitude diary - even if your gratitude for the day is just - "I noticed the colour of the sky today, or saw a bird ). Good luck. A

Re: I'm worried my trauma is affecting my life

Blaire — Mon, 16 Mar 2026 23:25:03 GMT

I know all about trauma affecting life i was left attacked cause I said these kids were looking at me but they were young so I just took what came my way I didn’t know what too do I Didnt wanna involve anyone I made a calm comment and then I was just agreeing with this chick too stop her yelling at these boys saying they didn’t look at you she went nuts i backed away she started me and left me beaten im suffering ringing in my ears still now nearly 2.5 months later and a multiple broken arm and a moon boot injured foot and infection too and also I got adhd so my best way too get my mental health good is by excercising heaps i wanna just go running but I can’t my man’s like nooooo just walking keep moving so I am im on medication too sleep at night it helps alot im now but having gaurds in shops watch me as I go too bathroom cause I’m scared as hell I wished I was big or tough or had a weapon that woulda saved me that night this poor guy ended up stabbed too he helped me aswell she took off on bus and cops know she came too finish me off at hospital it’s so messed up my man’s so angry and his mums had same injury as me she said I have heaps of witnesses but I email the head lady cop all the time talking about whatever I don’t hear any complaints it’s nice shes so sweet me and my partner jay suffered a misscarriage too but exciting news is I am getting married too him and I told my kids footy team I love them boys and I told his old Highschool too my son learnt guitar he did nirvana on it and offered too go back too school to learn properly and im like no way let’s make dinner together cause only way I get anger out the best way is too angry snowpea chopping it’s best ever i love my adhd energy it keeps me so active and typing so long