Why do I feel upset still as if it happened yesterday?

L12345 — Sun, 11 Jan 2015 23:59:58 GMT

I have been seeing someone for 7 months, in 2014, he had some commitment issues and he also made it obvious that we both are young and it was no need for all this (both 1st year university students).

I know it does not sound long but with the cultural background I have, it's very hard for me to cope with it all, I'm not aloud anything like this at all even at my age.

Since he was the first I interacted with, I can't help but to still feel broken, worthless, hopeless and just not myself at all. It's been 4 months I try and try to forget it all and it's just not working, I haven't contacted him either since then. Some days I feel like yeah everything's going great, maybe time help each other but then it goes down hill and I cry every night. I'm usually the quiet one in the family and very innocent.. I feel that I've ruined my innocences with this person, I feel shameful and very embarrassed. I also put others first then myself that's why I can never feel happy.

Boyfriends, sex, love etc are all still taboo's.

I still love him dearly but I also have a need to please my parents and people around me.

I feel that his not happy with me, and that I've also ruined myself by being with him.

Please help.

Why do I feel upset still as if it happened yesterday?

white knight — Mon, 12 Jan 2015 13:56:55 GMT

Hi L12345 welcome to beyond blue forums

There is only one reason why you feel guilty. TABOO!! You have been programmed/brought up with certain standards and you feel guilt as to breaking those standards set by your parents and close knit community.

Sometimes I think such standards are good. Many such standards have been dropped decades ago and society has suffered as a result.

I'm sorry to say, maybe your future lies in a guy that shares similar standards as yourself and your family? Being your first true "love", it wont be easy to forget him and many people go throughout their lives remembering the ones that "got away".

Love is hard to get over. It is only ever jumped over by a new love.

Think about that.

Tony WK

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Why do I feel upset still as if it happened yesterday?

Why do I feel upset still as if it happened yesterday?