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my gf says she loves me, but she doesn't..

GekYume — Thu, 14 Feb 2019 22:40:14 GMT

Me and my girlfriend have been together now for over a year and I think she's losing interest in me, that hurts me and makes me depressed a lot
she started by ignoring me in texts and doesn't respond when I tell her that I love her, she instead says ( thank you ) which it brings me down..
I feel like she's talking to a friend, not her boyfriend..
what do I do to make her love me again?

my gf says she loves me, but she doesn't..

white knight — Fri, 15 Feb 2019 06:15:32 GMT

Hi, welcome

Nothing you can do to make her love you.

You can try some tests for your own benefit. Wait until she texts/calls you. I know that is hard and you'll need to find some hobbies or sports to distract you a bit but it is the only thing you can do. Best to know the truth eh?

She might call, then act normally but wait till she invites you for time together. You might consider that she might be off colour or is questioning the relationship. Give her the benefit of the doubt a little.

TonyWK

my gf says she loves me, but she doesn't..

Honeymickey — Fri, 15 Feb 2019 22:19:29 GMT

Hey,

You girlfriend is not deserving of you if she treats you like that. Even though it may not seem like it, there is someone waiting for you one day. In my opinion, there is no reason to keep an individual in your life that is acting like a burden and causing you terrible struggles with your mental health. I feel like its best to think about the positions you are both in with each other and come to a conclusion from there.

Hope this helped!

my gf says she loves me, but she doesn't..

SubduedBlues — Sat, 16 Feb 2019 09:34:06 GMT

Hi GekYumi, welcome

It's time to reflect and think back to when you first started dating. How did you act then, vs now? How did you treat her then, vs now? What did you do then, that you don't do now? Go back to being some of that wonderful boy she fell in love with the first time. If you can be both the person she met, and include all the changes she wanted, then there ought to be a chance to find her interest once more.

To me, a common theme amongst my friends who have relationship breakdowns is that in some parts of the relationship they took for granted (parts in which they honestly believed were inconsequential or a given) only to later realize that the other person didn't think those parts were so inconsequential/insignificant. "Thank you", "may I", "would you", and "shall we' are often simple phrases (of great power) that we often forget to use when addressing our partner. Those, and all the compliments of romanticism.

PS: Welcome to BB Honeymickey.