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Stuck in a really huge rut- can't think of a way out.

mango76 — Thu, 21 Jun 2018 06:45:09 GMT

At present I currently have no high school education - not even a year 10 certificate, never had a job, can't drive, not in uni and live in the middle of nowhere. The nearest civilisation is 10 mins away aka I can't even walk or ride a bike anywhere and I don't even have neighbours that I could talk to. I don't know what to do. Every day I do nothing. Get up, go on the computer, read, cook, sleep. Every single day for the past few years. I have no memories really of anything. I don't have any friends that I could hang out with since I never leave my house I don't have any. I thought my only solution to this problem is being able to drive but I can't drive. No matter how hard I try I suck at it. I almost run into people all the time. I get so anxious when I drive and I don't even realise. I tried to drive for a little over a year but now I've given up. I was only on my L's though so I couldn't drive by myself anyway. So because can't drive I can't ever go anywhere and both my parents work so I am at home alone all day every day. I don't even apply to jobs anymore because I have no availability. I've gone almost 2 months without leaving my house earlier this year. I am soooo lonely but I'm very used to it. I can't think of any solution. My parents always ask me if I am depressed all the time and I always say no because I don't know if I am. I'm just numb. I think I am a really big burden on my family and I don't even like them to see me because I feel guilty. Idk what to do. I'm 18

Stuck in a really huge rut- can't think of a way out.

Crazy_hyper_girl — Thu, 21 Jun 2018 10:02:41 GMT

What’s up mango76

i am also 18 and I can’t drive, I have no friends, no job ( just a volunteer at a cafe). Good on for you though trying to drive I don’t think I would be allowed though my parents think I would go of my head. Well since you live in the middle of nowhere ( I would totally hate that) maybe try to do something creative in your backyard e.g like a motorbike track ( just a thought ). About the parents situation you should tell them and try to get them to understand I know it’s hard ( my parents don’t even understand me yet ) and also there’s no need to feel guilty It’s ok to feel the way you feel, your not alone.❤️

from the crazy hyper girl 🤪

Stuck in a really huge rut- can't think of a way out.

Lalaleelu — Sat, 30 Jun 2018 07:22:26 GMT

Hi Mango76,

I'm sorry to hear that you're having such a difficult time with things at the moment. I understand what it's like to have these feelings.

I didn't have my license when I was 18 and it was a real confidence-drainer for me. I was really scared of practicing too because whenever I tried I was SO BAD at it. Eventually I figured that I just had to be really bad at driving when I was learning. Then, after being really bad at it for a while it gets easier 🙂 I even drove half-way into a roundabout and stopped once. But I survived and now I drive all the time!

Maybe for now you could think think of one thing to do each day that would make you feel like you have accomplished something. For example, when I was going through a similar time I would write a short story or poem each day and because I had reached my goal I felt satisfied. But it could be anything!

Anyways, I hope you feel better soon 🙂

Stuck in a really huge rut- can't think of a way out.

quirkywords — Sat, 30 Jun 2018 08:52:12 GMT

mango 76,

Welcome to the forum.

Thanks for sharing your story. This is a caring, friendly and supportive place.

I am sorry you are having a difficult time.

I know knowing how to drive seems very important now and can make life easier but ai am much much older than 18 and have never had my drivers license.

it is possible to get to place and have friends without a cat. I also live in a small village.

I wonder if you are interested in anything like art, drawing music , animals or helping other people.

Have you spoke to nayone about how you feel.

Feel free to post as much as you like here.

Thanks for sharing your story.

Quirky