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I've lost my personality

auschic — Fri, 25 Jul 2014 11:56:57 GMT

I feel like I have lost myself. This feeling comes and goes.

I'm not sure what it is. Im not sure where it came from. The thing is, a few years ago (about 16 yrs old) I used to be so fun, full of life, sharp and quick witted. I nearly never got nervous. I could work a room full of people. I had a great sense of humor and I did not care what people thought of me. I had the ability to make any dull situation into a fun one. One day, that all disappeared. I wish I could say what caused it but I just don't know. It happened out of nowhere. I feel like I've lost myself and I feel so empty. I'm 18 now and most days I just sit on my phone all day watching videos or browsing the net. It's like I'm a robot and I hate it. Im 18 i should be out enjoying life like how I used to be. I have friends but I don't see them much because I feel awkward, I don't know why. I also have this crazy fear of meeting up with someone and not having anything to talk about or just doing something stupid like spilling my drink, and then my face will go red. I think that kind of holds me back from seeing friends and meeting new people. I used to be so confident with people and any social situation but nowadays a simple task like paying for groceries raises my heart beat. Why am I like this? I don't even know what caused this. I feel so tired and drained all the time. It's like I'm blank. I used to be the life of the party but I think if i was to go to a party now I would just feel awkward. It's easier to just lay in bed and not talk to anyone. How can I get my personality back?

I've lost my personality

white knight — Fri, 25 Jul 2014 12:09:19 GMT

Hi auschic, wlecome

It's a bit like patience...you cant find it on supermarket shelves. All you can do is work on it in social situations. Moderate drinking and observe others. My joking side of me comes out , a little too much sometimes but at least it comes out.

It might be a case of riding it through. And at 18 you are older than you were. I'd say when younger you were more carefree and didnt care about the consequences of what some would see as silly actions or expression.

Take it easy. Worrying will have a negative effect on you about this. You never know...at 21yo you might change again to a more serious person. but it isnt something to worry about.

Cheers.

I've lost my personality

geoff — Fri, 25 Jul 2014 15:43:54 GMT

dear Auschic, I want to thank you for posting your comment, and it takes a hell of a lot of guts to do this especially at 16 years old.

No one ever knows when depression is going to hit us, we could be doing OK the day before but the next day we get this incredible feeling of being down, sad, upset and loss of wanting to do anything.

We never asked for it, we never wanted it and we certainly didn't want to feel so down, it's just like we hit a brick wall, it stops us in our tracks.

No one can overcome this by themselves, sometimes we believe that it will pass, because we think we are having a tough time, and sometimes we may blame a situation for doing this, maybe or maybe not, but it needs to addressed starting with the help of your GP, who will then start the ball rolling for you.

Are you still going to school or have you dropped out.

Hope that you can reply back to us.Geoff.

I've lost my personality

AGrace — Fri, 25 Jul 2014 15:46:56 GMT

Hi auschic,

I recall your earlier post regarding feeling like you aren't noticed by your family due to your sister's ill health. I know you also mentioned that your brother had been putting you down. Do you think these 2 issues may have contributed to you feeling less confident?

I don't think you've lost your personality, I think you've lost your self worth and self esteem. One of the ways we can try to rebuild this is by doing things we're good at. By engaging in such activities we start to feel like we're achieving again and it can make us feel good about ourselves. It's not an overnight fix, it will take time and effort. I wondered if you could think of some of the things you know you're good at, perhaps things that come easy to you?

WK has a good point that the transition from being a teenager to becoming an adult can create a lot of changes in our behaviour as well as how we see ourselves. We are at a point in life where we are making a lot of important decisions. What career should we pursue? What degree should we study? Will we study? We can often hesitate in making these decisions and start to second guess ourselves. Even this can lead to uncertainty about ourselves. Resulting in a reduction in confidence.

I know I queried in your other thread the idea of going to your GP, did you give anymore consideration to this?

AGrace