topic Unhelpful Boyfriend in Young people

Unhelpful Boyfriend

S98 — Tue, 19 Jun 2018 08:38:31 GMT

Hello,

So i'm currently in a relationship with a beautiful man but he unfortunately doesn't understand what i'm going through. I have anxiety and depression and I also tend to take my anger out on him when i'm feeling frustrated. It's starting to impact our relationship as I don't want to see him anymore and just be on my own. I don't want to break up as we have just gotten back together this year. I hate being the cause of our problems. Any tips on how to fix this?

Regards S.

Unhelpful Boyfriend

Paul76 — Tue, 19 Jun 2018 09:03:29 GMT

Hey S98, you seem to be pretty self aware and honest with yourself- the thing I noticed is you said you don't want to break up and also said you don't want to see him any more and be on your own. You do but you don't. I guess you have to ask yourself why you feel that way. In my experience, communication is the key, honesty about how your feeling. I'm sure that for those who are fortunate not to suffer depression or anxiety it is sometimes difficult to understand how you feel, the thoughts you're having etc. I think that at the end of the day all you can do is be honest with him and if he cares enough for you no doubt he will understand and be grateful for your honesty. It may be that he questions your feelings for him if you are taking out your anger on him. Things can only become clearer for you both by talking about it. Your feelings are your own amd can't be helped, it's how you act on them that is your responsibility. Good luck:)

Unhelpful Boyfriend

J-J — Tue, 19 Jun 2018 09:38:49 GMT

Hi S,

Do you see someone about your mental health?

If you do maybe talk to them about possible allowing your boyfriend to come to a session with you. This gives him a chance to ask questions.

You kind of sound like me, you bottle your emotions and hold it in and BAM! a comment that you didn't mean to sound harsh is out of your mouth.

Give yourself some grace and love and permission to be happy.

Unhelpful Boyfriend

S98 — Tue, 19 Jun 2018 10:04:03 GMT

Thankyou for that Paul, I agree with you and I will speak to him about it. I appreciate you taking the time to talk to me.

Regards S.

Unhelpful Boyfriend

S98 — Tue, 19 Jun 2018 10:07:20 GMT

Thankyou JJ, I don’t see one anymore but that would of been a great idea.

Thankyou for taking the time to respond to me I really appreciate it.

Regards S.