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I did a science test today, just now realised I forgot to title my graph, and as a result I want to cry and hide away in a hole

zoeoe — Fri, 22 Mar 2019 12:05:18 GMT

I put a title in all of my study notes, reminded myself multiple times to title my graph. I just now realised, multiple hours later, that I did, in-fact, NOT title my graph. I feel so stupid. I actually feel like the dumbest person on earth. How could I forget to title a graph? A title is worth 1-2 marks on the test, which is out of 30. I am certain that if I titled my graph I would get 30/30, but no, I had to go and be an idiot and forget. I am so upset with myself. I don't know what to do.

I did a science test today, just now realised I forgot to title my graph, and as a result I want to cry and hide away in a hole

white knight — Fri, 22 Mar 2019 12:45:57 GMT

Hi, welcome

We can, do our very best as intelligent human beings, then a loss of judgement and we are hard on ourselves. But to ERR is HUMAN right? as the saying goes.

The issue here for me is that the self punishment in terms of mental damage is far greater than the likely fallout by a simple error.

People, when not accepting they make mistakes end up worrying but...worry doesn't produce anything but ulcers. What productivity can come from worry? Action yes not worry.

To accept that you are human and will make mistakes is clever.

Take for example my job as a private investigator for 18 years. In that job it wasn't unusual to get the odd speeding fine. Try as I could, doing 100,000km a year it was going to happen. So one day I decided that to receive one per year was within acceptable range. After 10 months without one I finally got one and took it on the chin because I was doing my best not to get one and my best is my best! Had I not changed my tack on tha ttopic I'd be dwelling on it for weeks.

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I did a science test today, just now realised I forgot to title my graph, and as a result I want to cry and hide away in a hole

therising — Fri, 22 Mar 2019 18:23:57 GMT

Hi zoeoe

Seeing we all have 'graph' moments in life, where we innocently slip up here and there, I'll give you an interesting and productive acronym to ponder: Generate Real And Productive Highs, in order to shift focus. It's strange when you think about it but this is a path parents typically take when we're very small. When we're small and our focus is stuck on what's upsetting us, we can go into meltdown mode. A wise parent comes along with the aim of shifting our attention to something that gives us a high, such as the promise of a trip to the park or perhaps the possibility of going to get an ice-cream. Of course, those sorts of things don't really cut it when we're older and we need our focus shifted. When we're older, we perhaps need something a little more intense than parks and ice-creams.

zoeoe, can you think of things that can have you generate real and productive highs in life? Do you have an interest in music, art, nature, sport/exercise, being of service/help to others etc? Personally, I find myself most satisfied and distracted (from the dramas in my life) when I turn to nature. To date, my favourite walks have been with friends within the beauty of The Dandenong Ranges. I remember how beautiful the world really is when I'm there. There is where I generate the most real and productive highs. It becomes about disconnecting from stress and expectation and reconnecting with what's real.

With our reality being based somewhat on our perception, I hope you are able to shift your reality to resemble the truth: Within moments when we have done our best, there will be opportunity to discover room for further growth. We are forever growing; it is within our nature. In the process, we cannot afford to be too hard on our self.

Take care

I did a science test today, just now realised I forgot to title my graph, and as a result I want to cry and hide away in a hole

smallwolf — Fri, 22 Mar 2019 20:04:42 GMT

Hey 🙂

Welcome to beyond blue.

It really does suck when you realise that you have made a mistake in a test and won't get 100%. I was/am doing a Bth which is mostly assessment based. I get fixated on the red marks on the paper and the comments. Each red mark represents an error where I am wrong. Within me, this is perfectionism. My standards for myself are too high that I set up myself to fail - not intentionally, but that is the end result. It is something I am working on with my psychologist. So I have to learn to live with imperfections.

Forgetting to label a graph does not define who you are as a person. When you are at uni or working, it won't be something people talk about. Nothing is actually perfect?

This situation shows that you want to do a good job or do something correctly. But it is also ok to make a mistake. Try not to let this need to do things correctly as something that relates to your self worth.

What would you say to a friend that made the same error?

Tim

I did a science test today, just now realised I forgot to title my graph, and as a result I want to cry and hide away in a hole

white knight — Sat, 23 Mar 2019 05:37:27 GMT

Hi the rising

As an extension to your great post.

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