https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/young-people/new-boyfriend-with-depression/m-p/382653#M16913 <P>Hi</P> <P>I have recently started a relationship with someone and been together 3 months. At first everything was great, he was loving and interested and attentive.</P> <P>Recently he mentioned to me that he has was diagnosed with depression about 10 years ago. He takes medication everyday to help keep it at bay. The depression part I am working on trying to understand it more, being someone who has never suffered. However, recently he has had a few episodes where i can tell he has been dark and exceptionally withdrawn (not talking for days, no want to see me or anything). I have read that becoming closer with someone and trusting them may make them the one who you are most moody with and its easier to put on a face for those you are not close to. </P> <P>I am struggling with the lack of love and (i know it sounds silly) pet names and ordinary new relationship fun and excitement, that he is unable to give me. </P> <P>I guess my question is, knowing this will not get easier as the relationship gets longer, do I stay? feeling all of this sort of longing for more "feelings amd love" that i wont get? .. I want to stay, outside of the depression he is a gentle, smart and incredible man. But is 3 months and all of my up and down feelings and questioning and hurt when i am ignored for days on end worth staying? </P> <P> </P> <P>I would love to hear thoughts of any previous experiences that helps me not feel alone in this</P> <P>Cara</P> Mon, 30 Apr 2018 12:22:37 GMT Caracaz 2018-04-30T12:22:37Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/young-people/new-boyfriend-with-depression/m-p/382653#M16913 <P>Hi</P> <P>I have recently started a relationship with someone and been together 3 months. At first everything was great, he was loving and interested and attentive.</P> <P>Recently he mentioned to me that he has was diagnosed with depression about 10 years ago. He takes medication everyday to help keep it at bay. The depression part I am working on trying to understand it more, being someone who has never suffered. However, recently he has had a few episodes where i can tell he has been dark and exceptionally withdrawn (not talking for days, no want to see me or anything). I have read that becoming closer with someone and trusting them may make them the one who you are most moody with and its easier to put on a face for those you are not close to. </P> <P>I am struggling with the lack of love and (i know it sounds silly) pet names and ordinary new relationship fun and excitement, that he is unable to give me. </P> <P>I guess my question is, knowing this will not get easier as the relationship gets longer, do I stay? feeling all of this sort of longing for more "feelings amd love" that i wont get? .. I want to stay, outside of the depression he is a gentle, smart and incredible man. But is 3 months and all of my up and down feelings and questioning and hurt when i am ignored for days on end worth staying? </P> <P> </P> <P>I would love to hear thoughts of any previous experiences that helps me not feel alone in this</P> <P>Cara</P> Mon, 30 Apr 2018 12:22:37 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/young-people/new-boyfriend-with-depression/m-p/382653#M16913 Caracaz 2018-04-30T12:22:37Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/young-people/new-boyfriend-with-depression/m-p/382654#M16914 <P>Hi Cara,</P> <P>Good to hear you've found someone who is both gentle and smart. It takes a lot of commitment for someone to look after who suffers from depression, and you certainly have to be an emotionally stable person. </P> <P>I suggest you take a look at the following topic that can be found here: </P> <P><EM>Forums / Supporting family and friends with a mental health condition (carers)/Are you supporting a depressed partner? My tips from 18 years of experience</EM></P> <P>It has some great pointers.</P> <P>C</P> Mon, 30 Apr 2018 12:37:21 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/young-people/new-boyfriend-with-depression/m-p/382654#M16914 CJames 2018-04-30T12:37:21Z