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ALL — Wed, 07 Jan 2015 02:03:06 GMT

Hi,

so I have generalized anxiety, and recently my depression is getting worse because it was being ignored. I cant do anything. I haven't done any school work in ages and im just stuck

I want to go to a headspace cenre tomorrow without telling my mum, but I cant lie and fear her finding out. please help

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Doolhof — Wed, 07 Jan 2015 22:10:18 GMT

Hi ALL

I have just come across your post. So did you go and talk to someone at Headspace? Did your Mum find out about it if you did go? Was she angry?

Can you go and see a Dr about how you are feeling, with our without your Mum knowing about it?

It sounds to me like you do need to find some help somewhere. Try telling your Mum again how depressed and anxious you are.

Google other support services, you managed to find Beyond Blue, try using their phone lines and chat with someone who can give you help and advice.

Seek the help you need, and if necessary tell your Mum later. You have stepped out, realised you need the help, now you need to follow those good intentions through and receive the help you need.

Keep looking for answers. From Mrs. Dools

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Neil_1 — Thu, 08 Jan 2015 02:14:08 GMT

Dear ALL

When you say, ‘your depression was being ignored …’; was that by others who knew about your illness (ie: a doctor perhaps?) Just wondering, that’s all.

At this current time, I’m assuming that school is still out on holidays? So you should be free of that for the time being, yeah?

But on to your greatest concern, and that’s of telling your Mum. Now you say you fear of her finding out. I’m guessing by this statement that you’re unsure of how she’ll react OR that she’ll react badly to you? Do you not think that she’d be caring and supportive of you?

Also when you mention about the headspace centre – have you actually made an appointment or will you be going there for the first time without contacting them? I only ask that, because if you’re able to contact them first (or again), maybe the person you speak with may have a suggestion for how to broach this with your Mum beforehand?

I do hope you can come back to us and respond again.

Kind regards

Neil

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ALL — Thu, 22 Jan 2015 03:51:59 GMT

Hey Ms Dools,

sorry for the late reply. no I didn't go, but talked over the phone with them.

I have been talking more with mum too, and finally got to see the psychiatrist today who answered all my questions. however, mum knows everything now so im a bit scared to talk. will work on it,

hope you are well

ALL

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ALL — Thu, 22 Jan 2015 03:55:02 GMT

Hi Neil,

yeah it was being ignored, but things are looking up. its scary but im getting there

I called headspace and I couldn't go in because the was no one free, so there was no problem in the end

like I said in the other replies, I saw a psychiatrist. im worried that mum will react badly to what she heard.

hope you are feeling good also, sorry for the late reply

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Doolhof — Thu, 22 Jan 2015 06:52:49 GMT

Hi All,

It is comforting to hear back from you. Sometimes I wonder what has happened to people who don't write more posts and I can't help but be concerned for their well being.

It is great you have been able to chat with psychiatrist and also with your Mum. From what you wrote, I presume your Mum joined you for your session is that right?

I don't have children, not my choice, just happened that way. Either way, I have seen my sister struggle with her daughter's depression/stress and Borderline Personality Disorder. I have been able to share information with my sister about these conditions as I suffer from them myself.

Through my sister understanding these illnesses more, she is now able to chat and relate to her daughter in a better way.

If you have specific issues bothering you, can you find information on the net about these issues and give that to your Mum to read. Maybe if she has more information and understanding, it may help you to work through your issues together.

Not sure if this will help or not. You know what is happening in your situation, I am just thinking of ways that might assist you.

Keep up the communication and keep looking for answers and solutions.

Cheers for now from Mrs. Dools

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ALL — Fri, 23 Jan 2015 23:51:45 GMT

Hi Mrs. Dools

I know, I worry too. im really sorry I didn't reply, but thankyou for your concern. I just haven't been having a great time and so I didn't really come online. I tried to take bit of time out, which has worked a little.

yeah mum and dad did chat to the psychiatrist, however I wasn't in the room so im not sure how much he told them. He did however clarify things for me ( despite me feeling better at the moment and questioning him over whether or not I have recovered or am just learning to resist). I have panic disorder, Generalized anxiety disorder and OCD. I think that finally told mum also how bad things are for me. she wants to help me now, but after years of keeping it too myself I find it a bit confronting to talk to her. do you have any tips for that?

Thanks again,i hope you are well,

ALL

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gibby3794 — Sat, 24 Jan 2015 02:03:55 GMT

hi ALL thanks for your comments 🙂

in regards to the psych and your parents he/she would have just been giving them advice on how to respond to any break downs you may have etc, if you are worried about what he/she will tell your parents you can always ask that at the next appt they have to tell you hat will be and wont be told to parents, i just looked it up and it does depend on your age as to what they can tell parents, if you are over 18 i is nothing as you are legally an adult, if under 18 they can tell about behaviors that may be putting you at risk (that is at their discretion)

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Doolhof — Sun, 25 Jan 2015 20:52:18 GMT

Hi ALL,

It sounds like you have a wonderful opportunity here to build up your relationship with your parents and to receive some help and assistance from them.

As a teenager/young adult I really struggled letting people know how I was feeling and how I needed help, so I do hope you are able to communicate your needs with your parents and with the psych.

You will need to find a way to feel comfortable approaching your Mum and Dad. Is there a place in the house or garden where you feel most at ease? Maybe you could sit down with a cup of coffee or whatever with your Mum, so you are both in a calm state and then start to talk.

If you find verbal communication difficult maybe you could write things down for your parents to read. When I was having trouble communicating with my husband, I sent him emails!

I do hope you come to a place where you feel able to chat with your parents and that you can accept their help and advice. Remember they are probably struggling with your problems as well as no one wishes for their child to be ill in any form or fashion.

Hope some of this helps, cheers for now, from Mrs. Dools

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ALL — Thu, 29 Jan 2015 08:17:24 GMT

Hi Gibby,

thanks for your reply. I know about the confidentiality and did discuss it with the professionals I am seeing. I think that's all that he did, give them advice and just mention how bad the anxiety was getting. either way, it has really helped and things are moving forward! im already feeling better knowing they are now on side

thanks for your help, hope you are well,

ALL

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ALL — Thu, 29 Jan 2015 08:20:32 GMT

Hi Mrs Dools

My relationship is starting to get better with them already and having them onside is making me feel better.

it is hard to express how I feel, but im working it out.

im thinking of going for a walk with them perhaps to talk?

thanks for your help, hope you are well

sorry for a short reply

ALL

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gibby3794 — Thu, 29 Jan 2015 22:15:02 GMT

im glad your feeling better 🙂 and its really good you have your parents there for support as that can make a lot of difference, especially when it comes to your low days with bad moods you will get a bit of leeway with being snappy as we all get at times and that will help rather then a lecture on your mood hahah, i think it would be good to open up to them a bit and then they will probably have a better idea on how to help you as well so if you feel comfortable talking to them while going for a walk then thats a good idea 🙂

James

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Doolhof — Fri, 30 Jan 2015 21:43:03 GMT

Hi All,

It is great you are starting to feel a little better and are thinking of ways to open up the communication with your parents. Going for a walk with them sounds like a great idea.

Finding the words to explain how we are feeling is not always easy and sometimes words can be taken the wrong way, but it is important to try to express how you are feeling.

Have you tried to write down your thoughts and feelings? I do that sometimes. Occasionally the words I write surprise me in their negativeness and angry forms, but they are out of my head then and down on paper.

I don't have to share what I write with anyone, I don't have to keep it either, I can screw up what I have written and throw it away, or burn it, rip it to shreds or what ever. It can be a great release.

Thanks for asking after my health, I'm doing a lot better on my new medication thanks and hope to continue to improve my life step by step each day.

Cheers to you and wishing you well on your journey! I will be looking out for your updates and learning what is helping you. From Mrs. Dools