topic In desperate need of advice! in Young people

In desperate need of advice!

Puppiesxoxo — Tue, 28 Aug 2018 08:23:31 GMT

Hi,

I finished high school last year (this may be relevant to later information) and I’m just making this post as I am in desperate need of advice on what to do/who to talk to! So basically for a few months now I have been crying a lot - around 2-3 times a day , every day (minus a few days here and there) . At first I thought it may just be stress crying from not knowing what I want to study at uni but now I just cry over absolutely everything and sometimes I don’t really know why. If someone is angry at me, especially my boyfriend, I find I very hard to control my emotions and I break down into hysterical crying and stress (but this is all in private, not infront of others).

Another thing is that recently (last few months) I’ve become really concerned about how I look physically and what others think of me to the point where I feel really stressed when meeting new people.

I don’t think that I am depressed but does this sound like something I should get help for or should it just pass on it’s own?

Thank you so much in advance and sorry if this isn’t clear

In desperate need of advice!

quirkywords — Tue, 28 Aug 2018 08:54:50 GMT

Puppies,

Welcome to the forum. Thank you for wriitng your first post.

I can see how confused you are.

The first year after school is a very difficult time as it is a transition from a very secure and structured environment to a world that has many possibilties and few rules.

I took a year off, it still found my first year of uni very challenging and I used to cry a lot as I was away from home and my friends.

You are responding to a situation that is unfamiliar with crying .

Has anything happened in th least few months apart from dealing with university and your emotions.

Would you consider having a chat to the counsellor at university as they are trained to deal with students in first year and other years?

I think it is good that you are aware of your emotions .

feel free to post here as much as you want to. You are not alone and we are here to support you.

Quirky

In desperate need of advice!

Terry73 — Tue, 28 Aug 2018 08:56:20 GMT

Hi Puppies,

First of all, welcome to the BB forums, you are always free to talk about anything you like. Secondly, just want to point out that we are not professionals here, and we all suggest you should seek contact with those in a better position to help should you urgently need help, such as Headspace and Lifeline.

Having said all that, Just want you to know that we will try our best to help you here as well.

To me, it sounds like you are unsure of yourself and which direction to go, to the point where its even making you question your self on things such as how you look. Many of us have been there, not saying its a phase, it can be quite crippling and damaging to yourself, and because you sound quite young, you dont have the experiences to rely on in the past as someone of an older age could rely on some memories to help push them forward.

I am not sure if this advice is helpful to you, but it has helped me many times in the past to push on, and that is that you look to what your dreams are for your life, how you want to live it, and then work hard to get to it, and dont give up on them dreams, even in years from now, when you are passing 70+ still keep going for those dreams. Before you know it, you have had one hell of a journey that you can be proud of, full of good memories.

As for the crying, even at my old age, we still need to shut ourselves down sometimes, sure it happens less, but thats because we have the experience to be able to shrug a lot of it off (which isnt necessarily a good thing either).

Always keep this in mind, no matter how bad you might think of yourself, beauty isnt for us to see ourselves, but for others to see us, so dont trust your own judgement of yourself, to yourself, you always will look plain and simple, but to those that matter, you will look like an angel, in more ways that one.

I hope all this helps,

Terry

In desperate need of advice!

Puppiesxoxo — Tue, 28 Aug 2018 09:28:40 GMT

Thank you so so so much! Yes I would consider it but I was just unsure if it’s vald enough to talk about howeverthe constant crying is really bothering me. I have actually discontinued my uni course as I did not enjoy it but I will speak to a professional. Apart from uni, in december last year my nan passed away which still affects me and makes me cry everytime I think about her (surprise surprise) but yeah I was just so confused and it’s been going on for too long I just thought I would give it a try and post in here. Thank you so much for you help

In desperate need of advice!

Puppiesxoxo — Tue, 28 Aug 2018 09:30:31 GMT

Thank you so much, Terry! yes I am unsure on my direction but i am just struggling to deal with the constant crying ... I just want it to stop but I can’t help it ahh! But I will speak to someone, thank you so much.

In desperate need of advice!

Puppiesxoxo — Tue, 28 Aug 2018 09:38:07 GMT

Hi terry, thank you so much! I really appreciate your advice, thank you so much. I think I will speak to someone. Thank you so much