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I'm confused on what I'll be doing

ash_al — Sat, 04 Nov 2017 11:09:55 GMT

I always wanted to do something that involves with art. I want to be an artist someday but none of my parents support me, I love drawing, I love designing clothes, I just love art. I even wanted to join an art competition but mum says no. I am a bit disappointed, hurt, and confused. I am actually studying a Diploma of Higher Education in health because my parents wanted me to have a medical course. I have never thought in a million years that I would actually be aiming for dentistry. Dentistry is such a competitive course and I don't really have the brains to study or will get accepted someday (my predictions), I have failed my maths but besides that I am doing well with my other subjects. Maths is really important to have a higher grade, I just did not understand why I have failed it because last semester I was doing well. I just do not know where I went wrong, and now I am worried because my parents expect a lot from me. I mean, they don't really expect me to study dentistry but any courses in health is fine. It's just that health is not really my thing and I am so pressured and stressed out because if I don't get in to dentistry, I have no idea what I am going to do after. Because none of the health courses are interesting( at least for me). I always think about this every single day, I just lay in my bed at night and cry because I do not think I have the chance in studying dentistry, which is sad and it really breaks my heart because that's what my parents what me to do, they want me to study a medical course. If you ask me why dentistry? The answer to that is I don't know, it sort of like just happened. When I enquired the application for the diploma, I just said I wanted to study dentistry, like I did not even think about it. I don't know why or how. Although, I want to help people with their oral health problems and inspire every one in what I love to do. Anyway, I'm just a confused person, if I pursue my art I am afraid that I am going to fail. All I want is support and inspiration from my parents, they do support me and admire my drawings but they just don't agree that art is what I really want. I wanted to join art competitions but I do not have enough money to do that. It's hard to do something when no one is there to guide you, help you, and support you in every way especially when it is something that you love.

Please help me, I just need advice and motivation. I don't know what to do.

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Croix — Sat, 04 Nov 2017 12:53:51 GMT

Dear Ash_al~

Welcome here to the Forum, where there are people that have had experience in most walks of life and would like to help if they can.

You have the same problem as many, well meaning, probably loving and concerned parents, who think they should steer their offspring into a life that will be good for them, with job opportunities and security. It all sounds pretty good in theory but does not always work out so well. Parents tend to see children as extensions of themselves.

Doing a Diploma of Higher Ed takes enthusiasm, work and ability. without those one is lucky to scrape though, or more likely fail. Going down that path to please parents, or out of a sense of duty is probably not the ideal thing to do. Going down a path of your choosing where you follow what appeals to you and gives you satisfaction is a better way.

My parents wanted me to do law at uni, so I went. I was terrible at it, though to be honest I did not have enough enthusiasm to work properly at it, and then I dropped out and was fortunate enough to get a job doing what I had always wanted. Many years later I went back to uni doing something for me, and passed well.

So I guess if you want to have a fulfilling life in the future you really do need to come to an understanding with your parents. I'm not sure what that would be. Obviously you want some form of art in your life, though if you should drop your Diploma, or continue on with some extra tuition in maths is another matter. Getting the qualification is helpful in its own right and does not necessarily mean employment in that field.

Can I suggest a serious talk with your parents? They do sound as if they want the best for you and should be able to see your artistic talent needs expression. Examine what can be done to get you some artistic training and entry into competitions as well as a 'secure' career stream.

What do you think?

Croix

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demonblaster — Sat, 04 Nov 2017 13:00:37 GMT

Ash hi & welcome to bb 🙂

Darl its very clear where your passion is & sounds like you have natural talent, its what you love then its what you should imo be doing.

Your parents sound as though they care & love you & want the best for you so you need to convince them arts your passion & is whats going to make you happy.

Suggesting to tell them you're stressing on doin other stuff but be very clear.

With/out attitude as such it is your life & its less than more that really know what they want to do let alone being good at it.

Seems like its your vocation

All very best 👍

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geoff — Sat, 04 Nov 2017 16:42:09 GMT

hello Ash_al, normally if your parents decide on what you should be doing, rather than doing what you yourself wants to do, it's sure that it will fail.
You can't be told what career you should be doing, just to please your parents, it just doesn't work like that and certainly won't turn out to be successful.
Imagine your parents deciding to paint your bedroom white, but you don't want it to be plain and want a peach colour, would you be happy with white, no, of course not, the same principle applies here with what you love doing, artwork and designing clothes, then you have to follow your dream.
Put the question back onto them and ask them what their parents wanted them to do in life and see if it happened, but were they happy.
You can get a degree but if you're not going to use it, then was it worth it. Geoff.

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ash_al — Tue, 07 Nov 2017 13:02:14 GMT

Hi Croix,

Thank you for your advice. I personally think talking to my parents would be a good idea. However, I feel like finishing the Diploma first since next term would be my last and the subjects that I will be taking are the prerequisite subjects for dentistry. I would like to wait and see what would be the outcome before making a decision on what to do next. Do you think I'm making the right decision? and also I'm so afraid to talk to my parents I don't know where to begin and how to say it. I just don't want to disappoint them with my decision and I'm worried if I am really making the right choice and fail if I don't follow my parents decisions.

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Croix — Wed, 08 Nov 2017 11:16:03 GMT

Dear Ash_al~

Thank you for saying more. I had not realized your Diploma was so close to completion. If it was me I'd try to see it though with only one more term to go. Admittedly it might take extra coaching in math, but that is doable I would expect.

I think that talking to your parents is essential, I've no idea if you can finance your self to the end of your studies, or are relying on them. So I would think you have a could of things to talk about, firstly of course getting to the end of your Diploma, and secondly what you want to do afterwards.

It may be that after next term there might be room for you to develop your artistic talents, join art competitions and even scout around for employment related to that area. If your parents see you have qualification to fall back on they might be less worried.

As for actually how to talk to them, I can only suggest that if you anticipate face to face conversation may not get things across as you might like then maybe write a letter and give them time to read it before talking.

Knowing what yo want to say is the basis of it of course, so have what you want to do mapped out first, but be prepared to look at any proposals they might have that are reasonable.

Do you think that sounds a bit like what you want to do?

Croix

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ash_al — Sun, 12 Nov 2017 07:01:08 GMT

Hi Croix,

Thank you for your reply. My parents are paying for my tuition and yes writing a letter would be another way to do it because then, I can express myself more. I've always wanted someone to help me with my maths, I've tried to email someone at my uni. to help me but I did not get any reply at all. Also, for the art competition, I actually don't know how and where to join and I don't have that much materials to do my artwork, which is unfortunate.

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Croix — Sun, 12 Nov 2017 08:51:56 GMT

Dear Ash_al~

Well, the maths should be easy to sort out. First port of call should be your lecturer who may know someone suitable. In addition each school has a stable of tutors they use for official tutorials. My experience tells me some of them do private tuting on the side. So contact school secretaries and see how you go. The Student Union is another place where tutors advertise and are found.

I would not think finding about art competitions that difficult, the web is a great resource. Now I'm not sure what discipline of art you are interested in but most times one can improvise. Of course for a formal artwork it might not be the case, but to put down ideas or capture a scene simple sketches or digital images might be a start.

Talking to your parents might require some thought, however if you are basically doing what they wish by completing your Diploma they may well look favorably at your need for artistic expression. Perhaps something with a time limit?

Croix

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Mathy — Sun, 12 Nov 2017 09:29:42 GMT

Hey Ash_al,

Butting in here. Croix has given you some excellent advice. For your Maths problems, I just wanted to say that there are some excellent online Maths study sites. I’m assuming you’re doing Y12 maths? I have a Maths degree, so if you post back with what’s causing you the most trouble, I’m happy to look up some web resources for you, and post them here, if that helps.

Regarding your future. What you are currently studying is a good building block for your future, so don’t think of it as a waste of time - good education is useful, as you move through life, you’ll understand that.

I would put your expectations and your parent’s expectations on the back burner for now. Just focus on completing what you need to do now, and do it as well as you can. You’re 75% down the path, and you can finish.

I’ll keep and eye on your thread. If you can post some specific issues you have with maths, I’ll find you some resources, OK ? Cheers M 🙂

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ash_al — Sun, 17 Dec 2017 09:52:09 GMT

Thank you Mathy 🙂 I will do for sure.

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Mathy — Sun, 17 Dec 2017 11:43:22 GMT

Hi ash_al,

How are you? I hope you’ve made it to the end of the student year ok 😊

Hopefully, you’ve got a summer break coming up and time to do some art?

I don’t know where you live but most city areas have community art groups - you could check through your local Council, what’s available in your area. Just I recall you saying you couldn’t afford something, and I thought community arts would be a great way to meet like minded people and get connected into a few groups.

Hope you have a wonderful festive season, cheers M 🙂

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dreambon — Thu, 21 Dec 2017 21:03:59 GMT

Ash_al, I know how hard it is for you to follow your passion in art despite your parents desires for you. I wish I could tell them that not everyone has a passion like you do. I personally envy your enthusiasm for art. I'm graduating uni soon and if I could go back in time and had a passion like you do I'd do whatever it takes to fulfil my dreams. However this won't strike you unless you experience it. In Year 12 I cared so much of what others would think and also letting my parents down- I didn't even CONSIDER going to college or any other institution other than university and where did that lead to? I just became a graduate of a degree I had no passion in. Who knows if you would like dentistry more than art? but for now because you have that spark in you and I don't want you to regret yourself or your parents I hope you have a serious talk with your parents about your future and tell them about other people's experiences above too! Hope you are well.

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geoff — Mon, 25 Dec 2017 01:58:55 GMT

hi Mathy, it does disappoint me so much that you aren't on my thread 'Home Improvement'.
I have needed you to respond to people with your expertise, it does sadden me that you won't be there, product wise you know more than I do, I was the one going to my store asking them what's the best product to use, new products come on the market that I am not aware of, sure I may know how to do things, but I need advice from someone like you to tell me what does what and what won't work.
I am also checked by the moderators and if I say something untoward then it won't be posted, or if someone reports my comment the same thing happens, and boy, I can't tell you how many times that has happened, much to my annoyance.
You are someone I need and I'm asking or pleading for you to still help me out on my thread, I will be disappointed if you don't help me. Geoff.

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ash_al — Thu, 01 Feb 2018 08:12:03 GMT

Hi Mathy,

I am doing good, semester starts in two weeks. I'm pretty nervous about it. I just have a question is 5.5 gpa good or bad? I just calculated my results last semester and I just want to clarify if 5.5 gpa is good enough.

Thnx

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Croix — Fri, 02 Feb 2018 13:27:52 GMT

Dear Ash_al~

Lots of people are nervous before semester, but once the work starts they feel more settled. A GPA of 5.5 on the 7 scale equates to a credit.

Have you managed to get in any art work?

Croix

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ash_al — Fri, 09 Feb 2018 01:21:58 GMT

Hi Croix,

I haven't done any artworks when I was on my holidays because I was at my auntie's place and it's like 3 hours drive from the city. They just opened their shop and I've been helping them and things were very complicated. However, these past couple of days I have managed to create artworks and I joined a facebook page around cairns, which I think is a good start. I've actually post a status two days ago about my artworks where they can also place an order if they want to, hopefully someone would be interested (fingers cross).

Thnx

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ash_al — Wed, 28 Feb 2018 08:39:54 GMT

Hello Everyone, thank you for all of your support and your kind words. I have talked to my parents and they said that I don't really have to do dentistry if I cannot do it. I'm just going to finish my diploma and hopefully I can do more artworks in the next few weeks. I'm so excited because i'll be going to Paris with my auntie when I finish my diploma. wish me luck 🙂

cheers

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Croix — Wed, 28 Feb 2018 12:54:50 GMT

Dear Ash_Al~

I'm delighted at your news, I don't think there could have been a better outcome.

Good luck finishing your diploma and have fun in Paris (I did:)

Croix

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ash_al — Mon, 02 Apr 2018 05:41:43 GMT

Thank you 🙂