https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/young-people/will-lose-all-my-friends/m-p/257172#M11549 <P>Since about July last year, I've had this circle of friends who I've been seeing and spending time with. No longer am I high school student, nope full on out there in the adult world.</P> <P>I feel like a burden on my friends as they see me suffer from anxiety attacks a lot. Like they will say something and I'll freak out thinking they want me to cut me off from their social circles.</P> <P>One of them had a boyfriend and I was seeing her a lot so I wrote to her explaining that I respected her relationship and I wouldn't try to change it. I just wanted to be her friend and if it seemed I wanted to pursue that path with her it was purely unintentional.</P> <P>Mostly due to a horrible experience I had in high school where a guy got extremely mad that I was talking to his girlfriend during lunch break. He screamed at her and then threatened me later. She separated from him because of how she spoke to me, so I blamed myself for that incident. Me and this high school friend are still friends to this very day also</P> <P> I've just been getting worse and worse, panic attacks all the time. Sometimes they get frustrated, over times they lightly laugh about how much I tend to be Mr.Worry from the Mr.Men books. I write to them very frequently, worrying that if I don't I will be forgotten and will slip from their minds.</P> <P>​I feel like I'm not what they want or need. I feel like I'm going to get abandoned almost everyday.</P> Wed, 15 Mar 2017 12:27:39 GMT Liam007 2017-03-15T12:27:39Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/young-people/will-lose-all-my-friends/m-p/257172#M11549 <P>Since about July last year, I've had this circle of friends who I've been seeing and spending time with. No longer am I high school student, nope full on out there in the adult world.</P> <P>I feel like a burden on my friends as they see me suffer from anxiety attacks a lot. Like they will say something and I'll freak out thinking they want me to cut me off from their social circles.</P> <P>One of them had a boyfriend and I was seeing her a lot so I wrote to her explaining that I respected her relationship and I wouldn't try to change it. I just wanted to be her friend and if it seemed I wanted to pursue that path with her it was purely unintentional.</P> <P>Mostly due to a horrible experience I had in high school where a guy got extremely mad that I was talking to his girlfriend during lunch break. He screamed at her and then threatened me later. She separated from him because of how she spoke to me, so I blamed myself for that incident. Me and this high school friend are still friends to this very day also</P> <P> I've just been getting worse and worse, panic attacks all the time. Sometimes they get frustrated, over times they lightly laugh about how much I tend to be Mr.Worry from the Mr.Men books. I write to them very frequently, worrying that if I don't I will be forgotten and will slip from their minds.</P> <P>​I feel like I'm not what they want or need. I feel like I'm going to get abandoned almost everyday.</P> Wed, 15 Mar 2017 12:27:39 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/young-people/will-lose-all-my-friends/m-p/257172#M11549 Liam007 2017-03-15T12:27:39Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/young-people/will-lose-all-my-friends/m-p/257173#M11550 <P>Hi Liam007, </P> <P>Friends is always a tough one for people with mental health concerns, it sounds like you overthink and analyse everything that is said which is something I do as well and I have some friends who do the same things and I am constantly trying to calm them down and not to analyse every little thing. It is very difficult I understand that however. Do you see these friends a lot, as you said you write to them so they don't forget you? </P> <P>Do you have a friend in that group you are closer to than others, someone who you feel you may be able to talk too about how you are feeling?</P> <P>My best for you, </P> <P>Jay</P> Wed, 15 Mar 2017 12:37:44 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/young-people/will-lose-all-my-friends/m-p/257173#M11550 BballJ 2017-03-15T12:37:44Z