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Wife has either Bi Polar or BPD

G_Man — Wed, 07 Oct 2015 08:15:16 GMT

My wife is currently going through the period with a psychiatrist where the potential outcomes will either be a diagnosis of BPD or Bi-Polar currently they aren't sure.

We have been married nearly 2 years and she has a really traumatic past having lost her mum to suicide when she was 8, suffered abuse at the hands of her grandparents and been in several broken relationships and has 4 children with 3 failed relationahips.

None of this bothered me at the time and I fell madly in love with her.

Since then her behaviour has changed, she has a big problem with physical intimacy on any level, seems to be down all the time apart from very rare really outrageous high's

I am really struggling to cope and looking to connect with people in similar situations. I want to support her unconditionally but without anything at all in return it is so difficult, It makes you feel unloved , is it worth it, will things ever change.

Anyone in a similar situation that is either going through similar or has been through similar. I love her to bits and really need some support with how to cope.

Wife has either Bi Polar or BPD

Chris_B — Mon, 12 Oct 2015 00:18:55 GMT

Hi G Man, welcome to the forums. Have a look through the following threads to find members to speak to in a similar situation:

Finding it difficult to cope with BPD spouse

Coping with a partner with BPD/depression

My wife has BPD and I need support

BPD - coping with partner

Cannot abandon my wife BPD sufferer

I don't know where to turn - partner with BPD

Wife has either Bi Polar or BPD

Teddy1 — Mon, 23 Nov 2015 23:57:55 GMT

Hey G Man,

Its tough going mate, im going though it as well, she has Bi-poloar diagnosed 3 years ago and has just had another episode, here i am trying to help but get bricks thrown at me (not literally) for doing so.

Its really hard to deal with and my call tho the mental health unit will probably end the relationship for the second or third time. I wish I could be smarter and walk away but care and love here too much, with no acknowledgement for trying to help and constant denial of her issues.

My guess is the decision has been made for me.