https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/supporting-family-and-friends/ptsd-woman-loves-man-with-depression-help/m-p/122190#M5936 <P>Hi Mizlissa,</P> <P>Welcome to the bb forums. If you have a look through the supporting family and friends forum you will find a lot of members trying to negotiate similar difficulties to this. There is also a publication in the resources which is written for carers with really useful information about caring for your loved one and yourself.</P> <P>For the sake of your children and yourself and your fiancee it might be a good idea to think about some relationship counseling. Your partner is an adult not a baby. Even with babies we expect them to grow and develop to the point of not pooping in our hand unless there is a disability which prevents this of course. It might be worth considering if you are treating your partner like a depressed man or a frustrated child?</P> <P>cheers,</P> <P>Pixie.</P> Fri, 10 Jul 2015 00:46:49 GMT Pixie15 2015-07-10T00:46:49Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/supporting-family-and-friends/ptsd-woman-loves-man-with-depression-help/m-p/122189#M5935 <P>background - together 4 yrs 3 of them amazing. </P> <P>He's been suffering for a while but when I suggested help he wouldn't go, I work full time so I've been putting off going to see someone too. I know I need to! My PTSD is making me paranoid and insecure which leads to anger. This anger has led to a huge blowout ending our relationship (though we were engaged and getting married in a few months). It also caused him to finally go to the doctor. It's almost defiantly some sort of depression/anxiety that causes him to blow up over the smallest things run off and lock himself in a caravan for days.&nbsp;</P> <P>My question is this, he is blaming me for everything lashing out like mad, texting non stop about how everything is destroyed because of me. I want to help him get through this, I can't leave him like that! I know it sounds stupid but I love him, I have children I know what it means to love someone who poops in your hand. I love him like that, I need help to help him.&nbsp;</P> Thu, 09 Jul 2015 11:39:12 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/supporting-family-and-friends/ptsd-woman-loves-man-with-depression-help/m-p/122189#M5935 Mizlissa 2015-07-09T11:39:12Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/supporting-family-and-friends/ptsd-woman-loves-man-with-depression-help/m-p/122190#M5936 <P>Hi Mizlissa,</P> <P>Welcome to the bb forums. If you have a look through the supporting family and friends forum you will find a lot of members trying to negotiate similar difficulties to this. There is also a publication in the resources which is written for carers with really useful information about caring for your loved one and yourself.</P> <P>For the sake of your children and yourself and your fiancee it might be a good idea to think about some relationship counseling. Your partner is an adult not a baby. Even with babies we expect them to grow and develop to the point of not pooping in our hand unless there is a disability which prevents this of course. It might be worth considering if you are treating your partner like a depressed man or a frustrated child?</P> <P>cheers,</P> <P>Pixie.</P> Fri, 10 Jul 2015 00:46:49 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/supporting-family-and-friends/ptsd-woman-loves-man-with-depression-help/m-p/122190#M5936 Pixie15 2015-07-10T00:46:49Z