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What is she really thinking?

aurrrudurrr — Thu, 20 Nov 2014 03:18:16 GMT

My mother have been suffering from anxiety for a very long time, me and my stepfather don't know what to do anymore.

On topic wtih the heading, my mother love money and my stepfather being a property invevstor before (he enlist the help from TIC) introduce property investing to my mother, she love it. However, here's the real concern, she believes in hard work to earn money (that's alright, although that I don't; I believe in the right side of the Cashflow Quadrant) rather than investing. Also, when she is having an anxiety attack, she do or plan all sort of thing to stabotage the investment, the investment for her own future good and she want to destroy it. Why? What's exactly going on in her head? (e.g. moving money around to mess up the offset account) Becasue when we ask her did she have faith in property investment (while she is calm and sane) and she said yes.

We also keep trying to explain the idea of using other people money as opposed to paying everything out of your own pocket, but she doesn't get it, such as, she keeps insisting that she is paying her own money towards the investment houses, in reality it is the rents and the tax department paying for it, also we are getting tax deduction becasue of the good debt we had, but she doesn't see them.

What can we do to try to help her or least understand what is really going on?

not sure if this will help, but here's a little bit of information about me, my stepfather and famity history

I have Asperger and my stepfather is kind but something stupid, we are also suspect that there are NPD and Stockhome Syndrom in my mother famity side.

What is she really thinking?

white knight — Thu, 20 Nov 2014 06:43:17 GMT

Hi aurrrudurrr, welcome here to beyond blue forums

I have only one answer for your mother and step dad. Seek the help of a financial planner or advisor.

Take care. Tony WK

What is she really thinking?

aurrrudurrr — Fri, 21 Nov 2014 10:16:43 GMT

No I think you missing the point, I said my stepfather have enlist the help from TIC (a.k.a. The Investor Club found by a guy call Kevin Yound) TIC provide both advisors and recommend financial planner, so that is already covered.

BTW, my question is not about the financial or investment problem, they are there to show you the story behind this question - Why did you what to distroy her own future, that someone else has worked hard for her?

P.S. Talking about advisor, as stated we have them and she use them during her anxiety attacks, such as emailing them nonsenses and making a fool of herself.