https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/supporting-family-and-friends/supporting-my-wife-and-at-the-end-of-my-rope/m-p/44597#M1842 <P>Hi, i am a carer to my wife and have been so for 10 years, she suffers severe depression,&nbsp;agoraphobia and&nbsp;polycystic ovary disease and suffers with periods of being bedridden every couple of weeks for a week at a time, her depression is so bad that me and our 4 kids have lived our lives around her, we have 2 autistic kids under 12 who are a full time job for me and a 8 year old with an intellectual disability. I have supported my family happily but lately feel worn out and out of options, my wife's medication stopped working recently which drove me to breakdown point, with a medication change i saw better moods etc fora short period but within 2 months the roller coaster came back, i feel like im selfish as she has these conditions but also wonder why she wont seek help recommended by GP like a psychiatrist or psychologist, and does she see how stressed and hopeless i feel why she refuses, i have several times threatened to leave and the promiseses made are never kept...</P> <P>I am truly stumped...&nbsp;</P> <P>Jay &nbsp;&nbsp;</P> Sun, 23 Mar 2014 08:11:13 GMT JayDadOf4 2014-03-23T08:11:13Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/supporting-family-and-friends/supporting-my-wife-and-at-the-end-of-my-rope/m-p/44597#M1842 <P>Hi, i am a carer to my wife and have been so for 10 years, she suffers severe depression,&nbsp;agoraphobia and&nbsp;polycystic ovary disease and suffers with periods of being bedridden every couple of weeks for a week at a time, her depression is so bad that me and our 4 kids have lived our lives around her, we have 2 autistic kids under 12 who are a full time job for me and a 8 year old with an intellectual disability. I have supported my family happily but lately feel worn out and out of options, my wife's medication stopped working recently which drove me to breakdown point, with a medication change i saw better moods etc fora short period but within 2 months the roller coaster came back, i feel like im selfish as she has these conditions but also wonder why she wont seek help recommended by GP like a psychiatrist or psychologist, and does she see how stressed and hopeless i feel why she refuses, i have several times threatened to leave and the promiseses made are never kept...</P> <P>I am truly stumped...&nbsp;</P> <P>Jay &nbsp;&nbsp;</P> Sun, 23 Mar 2014 08:11:13 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/supporting-family-and-friends/supporting-my-wife-and-at-the-end-of-my-rope/m-p/44597#M1842 JayDadOf4 2014-03-23T08:11:13Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/supporting-family-and-friends/supporting-my-wife-and-at-the-end-of-my-rope/m-p/44598#M1843 Hello Jay, this is an awful situation for you to be in, I am so sorry. It is not selfish for you to feel the way you do, it is hard enough coping with a partner who has severe depression let alone when you have high needs children to care for as well.&nbsp; It is unfair on you that your wife won't seek the help that is on offer.&nbsp; What about help for you?&nbsp; It sounds like you would benefit from having some psychological help as well.&nbsp; Is there any way that you can get extra support in caring for the children, either from other family members or a welfare organisation?&nbsp; At the very least it sounds like you need some respite to turn the pressure down. Mon, 24 Mar 2014 02:41:08 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/supporting-family-and-friends/supporting-my-wife-and-at-the-end-of-my-rope/m-p/44598#M1843 JessF 2014-03-24T02:41:08Z