https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/supporting-family-and-friends/long-distance-partner-pushing-me-away/m-p/590726#M17384 <P>Hi, welcome&nbsp;</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>You have strong feelings for this lady but it doesn't appear that those feeling are mutual. Sadly.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>I'm sorry you feel this way. Freedom is afforded to all adults and her decision are hers to make. This is the same when we get a partner if a person with a mental health issue that refuses treatment.&nbsp; They have that right.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>For a partner to be treated less important than friends it is to outsiders like me to - see the writing on the wall.&nbsp;</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>I suggest, as hard as it is, not to contact her and wait until she contacts you, if she doesn't, you know your future.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>Again I hope you are OK. Reply anytime</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>TonyWK&nbsp;</P> Sun, 05 May 2024 13:43:55 GMT white knight 2024-05-05T13:43:55Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/supporting-family-and-friends/long-distance-partner-pushing-me-away/m-p/590605#M17382 <P>Hello,</P><P>I've been in a relationship with a woman living interstate for several years. We broke up pre-Covid and got back together post- Covid. I love her very much. Her teen daughter is currently hospitalised for mental health reasons. I want to support the interstate partner but she pushes me away. I want to visit her to check in on her, as her own mental health isn't great. She says she thinks about 'giving up on life'. I was so worried about her- eventually she confirmed that doesn't mean the same as ending her life. She won't agree to me visiting her, yet I long to give her a hug and make sure she is ok. She says it's not personal but she still has time for 2 other friends, one of whom she had an affair with in the last 6 mths. I thought we dealt with that and got past it.&nbsp;<BR />I understand she is going through a lot and she doesn't know what the future holds for her daughter.</P><P>I don't know what to do anymore, I've tried to be supportive on her terms but it hurts she wouldn't allow me to go visit this w/e yet despite saying it isn't personal and she has pushed everyone away, yet she is still seeing a couple of her friends regularly and attending a party this w/e.</P> Sat, 04 May 2024 06:50:07 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/supporting-family-and-friends/long-distance-partner-pushing-me-away/m-p/590605#M17382 Guest_11525639 2024-05-04T06:50:07Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/supporting-family-and-friends/long-distance-partner-pushing-me-away/m-p/590726#M17384 <P>Hi, welcome&nbsp;</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>You have strong feelings for this lady but it doesn't appear that those feeling are mutual. Sadly.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>I'm sorry you feel this way. Freedom is afforded to all adults and her decision are hers to make. This is the same when we get a partner if a person with a mental health issue that refuses treatment.&nbsp; They have that right.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>For a partner to be treated less important than friends it is to outsiders like me to - see the writing on the wall.&nbsp;</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>I suggest, as hard as it is, not to contact her and wait until she contacts you, if she doesn't, you know your future.</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>Again I hope you are OK. Reply anytime</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>TonyWK&nbsp;</P> Sun, 05 May 2024 13:43:55 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/supporting-family-and-friends/long-distance-partner-pushing-me-away/m-p/590726#M17384 white knight 2024-05-05T13:43:55Z