https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/supporting-family-and-friends/what-is-the-cause-of-my-unhappiness/m-p/574002#M16875 <P>I am seeking clarity for my unhappiness, short temper, loneliness as I've been through a few life changes.</P><P>Firstly, I moved to an area that is a long hour drive from work, children's school etc and have adapted to this change. I do like being here but tired all the time making sure children don't miss out on things.</P><P>Secondly, a long on going conversation with partner regarding affection. I'm affectionate but now feel like e an idiot when I approach partner as I het nothing back</P><P>&nbsp;When we discuss this he says nothing, it occasionally gets too much and I get upset but he's over it and says nothing.&nbsp;</P><P>Thirdly, my teenager 17, hates everything I say, too strick, never say anything right and I end up in a screaming conversation with then.&nbsp;</P><P>A lot to take in but I'm over it all and don't know where to start.&nbsp;</P><OL><LI>Never joined antlything like this before. Nervous</LI></OL> Thu, 07 Sep 2023 00:02:00 GMT Har0 2023-09-07T00:02:00Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/supporting-family-and-friends/what-is-the-cause-of-my-unhappiness/m-p/574002#M16875 <P>I am seeking clarity for my unhappiness, short temper, loneliness as I've been through a few life changes.</P><P>Firstly, I moved to an area that is a long hour drive from work, children's school etc and have adapted to this change. I do like being here but tired all the time making sure children don't miss out on things.</P><P>Secondly, a long on going conversation with partner regarding affection. I'm affectionate but now feel like e an idiot when I approach partner as I het nothing back</P><P>&nbsp;When we discuss this he says nothing, it occasionally gets too much and I get upset but he's over it and says nothing.&nbsp;</P><P>Thirdly, my teenager 17, hates everything I say, too strick, never say anything right and I end up in a screaming conversation with then.&nbsp;</P><P>A lot to take in but I'm over it all and don't know where to start.&nbsp;</P><OL><LI>Never joined antlything like this before. Nervous</LI></OL> Thu, 07 Sep 2023 00:02:00 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/supporting-family-and-friends/what-is-the-cause-of-my-unhappiness/m-p/574002#M16875 Har0 2023-09-07T00:02:00Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/supporting-family-and-friends/what-is-the-cause-of-my-unhappiness/m-p/574029#M16876 <P>Hey there Har0!&nbsp;</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>welcome to the forums. Start with the easy bit ... if you have not used a forum before I can understand the nervousness you mentioned. What I can say is that many here would have felt the same; and at the same time, we like to think our ourselves as non-judgemental and supportive.&nbsp;&nbsp;</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P>On the 17 year old - a couple of things to think out ... what are they like in public? better than at time? polite? Based on my own experience (2 children in early 20s) and when I was that age, we/they (we at there age) might think they know best, and mum and dad don't understand.&nbsp;</P><P>&nbsp;</P><P><SPAN>On unhappiness - from what I did read it sounds like you&nbsp; are going through such a challenging time, and carrying a heavy load and these changes and issues are taking a toll on your happiness and well-being. I could say that how you might have a conversation with partner and teen might be helpful (based on my own therapy journey) but will leave that for a later post.</SPAN></P><P>&nbsp;</P><P><SPAN>I hope you had an OK day today?</SPAN></P><P>&nbsp;</P><P><SPAN>Listening...</SPAN></P> Thu, 07 Sep 2023 11:58:09 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/supporting-family-and-friends/what-is-the-cause-of-my-unhappiness/m-p/574029#M16876 smallwolf 2023-09-07T11:58:09Z