topic Re: Good or bad friendship? in Supporting family and friends

Good or bad friendship?

anteater08 — Thu, 21 Jul 2022 06:59:05 GMT

Um this is my first time doing these kinds of things but I need to vent somewhere.

So I have this friend and I really enjoy hanging out with her. She's really nice and also funny, but recently she's been acting all mean and like fed up with me. Maybe it's just me or something but sometimes I feel like she actually hates me.
I want to tell her how I feel about it but I don't want something big to happen and I don't want it to affect our friendship or anyone around us. I just don't know what to do.

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Sophie_M — Thu, 21 Jul 2022 07:49:44 GMT

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Re: Good or bad friendship?

Jazzbanana — Thu, 21 Jul 2022 09:00:42 GMT

Can you elaborate to us about how she is acting mean and fed up with you, for example what she is doing or saying to you?

Re: Good or bad friendship?

anteater08 — Thu, 21 Jul 2022 11:08:43 GMT

It’s like anything I do she just has that kind of tone that says like stop. Sometimes she doesn’t even want to be paired up with me in some group projects and sometimes I just feel excluded I guess.

Re: Good or bad friendship?

Jazzbanana — Thu, 21 Jul 2022 12:17:58 GMT

http://www.tatianaastray.com/managing-relationships/2020/2/10/communication-tool-using-i-statements-to-make-requests-in-relationships

When you talk to her use 'I statements', it will help you with communicating your concerns to her. Maybe start with telling her what you've been noticing lately when you undertake group projects and other situations, ask if everything is okay, and then tell her how you feel.

I've been in your position many times and I understand what it's like to feel excluded.

Re: Good or bad friendship?

anteater08 — Thu, 21 Jul 2022 13:13:23 GMT

Thank you! I’ll give it a go and see how things work out!! 🙂