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I need advice

Concerned_Mom — Fri, 31 May 2019 12:30:16 GMT

My 19 year old daughter has Anorexia and has been in hospital for the past 2 weeks. She keeps telling me she doesn’t want me to visit her in hospital which is really getting to me I want to be there to support her and show her I love her but I also don’t want to upset her by visiting her if she doesn’t want me too. It’s really getting to me I don’t know what to do.

I need advice

Ben_k — Fri, 31 May 2019 13:05:21 GMT

Hi, I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter however hopefully this helps out!

Do a fair amount of research surround anorexia, and motivational things revolving around the disorder. You need to show your daughter you know a lot about what she's going through and that she doesn't want to just here a "I love you" from her mum; she wants to here that her own mother knows what to say about what's she's going to, and that she understands and can support her that way. I reckon doing this will be a major help and will be able to make you daughter be more comfortable seeing you and even get better. I hope this helps.

All the best! Ben.

I need advice

Concerned_Mom — Sat, 01 Jun 2019 00:55:20 GMT

Thanks Ben I have helped her recover from it as she suffered Anorexia through her early/ mid teens. Now she’s relapsed she’s shutting us out myself her grandparents etc, saying she doesn’t want us to come in and visit her I don’t want to upset her by just showing up at the hospital but I don’t know if it’s just the ED talking. This is the first admission as an adult. I don’t want to seem like an unsupportive mother but on the other hand I don’t want to ignore her wishes and make her spiral worse. It’s tearing me apart I really don’t know what to do.