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Letting my depressed boyfriend go is so hard

FeeR — Thu, 06 Dec 2018 01:08:35 GMT

Hi. This week I let my boyfriend go, after 6 years. He has been so depressed- but unwilling to get help, he says he can’t feel anything- not love or happiness and can’t give it either. I know I have to let him go for me, and he needs to find himself too but it’s so hard, I love him so much. I can’t eat and there is still so much to do- packing up our house, moving, cleaning. I’m not ready to move on but I have no other choice- I have to live in a sharehouse and I’m sad and angry. I feel like a failure for it getting this bad for not being able to help him. Trying to be strong

Letting my depressed boyfriend go is so hard

IsaJett — Thu, 06 Dec 2018 01:42:10 GMT

Hi there FeeR

Sorry to hear you are going through such a bad thing .

It is tough on you because he won’t get help .But it isn’t your fault ..all you can do is do your very best with what is within your control .

I know I had to leave my husband because he was in denial about a lot of things . I had to do it out of love . Setting someone free might not necessarily be such a bad thing . It’s in fact the best thing you can do for someone .

so look at it this way ...a bit of time and space might actually help everyone . Much as it’s daunting to think that things have ended but you just never know what is round the corner . My ex and I are both much happier with the break up and much as you don’t think that it cannot happen ...but it will happen . This will pass . I promise you and you will be so ok . I know I was really lost too ..but I found my way out .

you can do some meditations with Jason Stephenson ..I have found his recordings very helpful

look on YouTube ..Jason Stephenson letting go sleep

I promise this will assist you greatly and give you the strength and courage you need

stay well ..

trust me you would have learned and grown so much from this

I hope this helps you 🙂

Letting my depressed boyfriend go is so hard

FeeR — Thu, 06 Dec 2018 06:28:17 GMT

Thank you so much for your care and words.

Its hard because I’m trying not to get angry trying not to feel like a failure but I can’t help it, I know it’s not my fault but he is the person I love the most in this world and I couldn’t help him and now I’ve lost him.

When I was depressed, he made me feel better and I can’t hekp but remember how I couldn’t do the same for him.

Im afraid of losing him because I don’t know who I am or what to do without him. He was my world.

i will definitely look up the meditation thank you for the recommendation

Letting my depressed boyfriend go is so hard

IsaJett — Thu, 06 Dec 2018 07:40:47 GMT

Hi FeeR

yeah try the meditation videos ..I am sure it provide some relief. don’t think too much about it . Looking after yourself is most important .

u can maybe recommend him the link to if it helps you ..

sometimes a bit of time apart is good ..I’m sure you mean a lot to him too . But I know with depression ..you have to let them come to you ,,otherwise they feel pressured .

You know it might feel horrible now for you ..but trust me ..it will get better soon .you just have to give yourself oermission to smile again . Yeah permission granted FeeR

also I have this super cool trick ..get a pen and write on your hand “permission granted .”

And it serve as a gentle reminder for u throughout the day .

stay well, .