https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/supporting-family-and-friends/seeking-guidance-for-partner-with-depression/m-p/282586#M10255 <P>Hi. I'm new to this and looking for a little help/guidance</P> <P>My partner appears to have fallen into quite a deep depression yet refuses to acknowledge it. Day after day I see this blank/zoned out expression on her face, completely shutting me out. Some days she will refuse to leave the bed, others she won't move from the couch, often going several days without showering. Her alcohol intake has increased substantially - often sitting up on her own and drinking to the point of passing out</P> <P>Other days she seems ok, yet without warning or any obvious trigger, she falls back into a bad day</P> <P>I'm really concerned about her. I try to remain calm and supportive, yet no matter how gently I approach the subject, she shuts me out by saying 'I'm fine.' and 'I don't have depression'. She refuses to talk to anyone or seek help.</P> <P>This has been happening off and on for the past 12 months. I really love her but I'm starting to reach the end of my tether</P> <P>Any guidance here would be really appreciated</P> <P>Thanks</P> Tue, 24 Oct 2017 00:12:18 GMT Carer17 2017-10-24T00:12:18Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/supporting-family-and-friends/seeking-guidance-for-partner-with-depression/m-p/282586#M10255 <P>Hi. I'm new to this and looking for a little help/guidance</P> <P>My partner appears to have fallen into quite a deep depression yet refuses to acknowledge it. Day after day I see this blank/zoned out expression on her face, completely shutting me out. Some days she will refuse to leave the bed, others she won't move from the couch, often going several days without showering. Her alcohol intake has increased substantially - often sitting up on her own and drinking to the point of passing out</P> <P>Other days she seems ok, yet without warning or any obvious trigger, she falls back into a bad day</P> <P>I'm really concerned about her. I try to remain calm and supportive, yet no matter how gently I approach the subject, she shuts me out by saying 'I'm fine.' and 'I don't have depression'. She refuses to talk to anyone or seek help.</P> <P>This has been happening off and on for the past 12 months. I really love her but I'm starting to reach the end of my tether</P> <P>Any guidance here would be really appreciated</P> <P>Thanks</P> Tue, 24 Oct 2017 00:12:18 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/supporting-family-and-friends/seeking-guidance-for-partner-with-depression/m-p/282586#M10255 Carer17 2017-10-24T00:12:18Z https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/supporting-family-and-friends/seeking-guidance-for-partner-with-depression/m-p/282587#M10256 <P>Welcome Carer all I can suggest is be there for he be pashent let her lead you into getting better. If you really force the issue she will deny it if she really wants to get better it has to start with her when she realizes it she will know so quietly find out the information you may need to help her so when she wants help it's all there at your fingertips </P> <P>Kanga</P> Tue, 24 Oct 2017 01:50:48 GMT https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/supporting-family-and-friends/seeking-guidance-for-partner-with-depression/m-p/282587#M10256 kanga_brumby 2017-10-24T01:50:48Z