Emotional support

Miilicent — Tue, 26 May 2026 05:37:16 GMT

Does anyone else's husband/wife not really understand or believe depression/anxiety. I feel alone in this household. Trying to keep on top of it for myself, yet trying to educate someone who doesn't seem to want to understand. It can feel like a lonely journey.

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melodica — Tue, 26 May 2026 05:54:19 GMT

Hello,

It can be a very lonely experience when you are not supported, especially when that person does not understand anxiety and depression. i am sorry that you are going through it.

I have found therapy really helpful in this situation. Sharing my experience weekly with someone who can understand my thoughts and feeling and help me cope with whatever life throws at me.

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therising — Tue, 26 May 2026 06:41:15 GMT

Hi Miilicent

My heart goes out to you so much as you face the frustration and disappointment involved in trying to open people's minds when it comes to how you feel.

For years my husband never believed in depression. He'd witness me enter the depths of it at times and I'm not sure what he was imagining other than 'That's just the way she is'. It wasn't until I came out of long term depression that he saw a massive shift in who I was and how I felt life. In his mind, I think he realised it must be real. Hmmm🤔

Whether it's a mental or psychologically based depression, a physical of chemically based one or it's got more of a 'dark night of the soul' vibe or maybe a bit of a combo of all 3, no matter what...you can definitely feel yourself in that deep dark well or depression. It just becomes a matter of 'How far down into it am I?'. I don't think anyone can fully relate unless they've been in that well themself. When it comes to not being able to relate, anxiety can be the same. If you haven't felt a breathtaking and heart racing level of fear, dread, stress, overwhelm etc, it's hard to imagine exactly what it's like.

We can try all we might to explain to someone what depression and anxiety are all about or how they feel but unless that person's prepared to raise their consciousness, it's something they'll just never be conscious of. How questionable is it when you really think about it, kinda like 'So you don't want any education on the matter? You don't want to be any the wiser? You don't want to understand how I sense or feel life? You don't want to be conscious of such things at all?'. If the answer is 'No' or 'All that stuff's a load of rubbish. It's not real', you seriously gotta start wondering. Is this person's level of sanity questionable? Perhaps a bit cheeky but I'd say 'Oh, hell yeah, definitely'. Personally, I've found wonderful people (full of wonder) love an education. Based on their nature, they thrive on gaining knowledge. At the end of the day, we could ask 'Am I living with a wonderful person or a highly questionable person?'.

It's never a lonely journey with wonderful open minded deeply feeling people. I believe time is better spent finding wonderful people who are prepared to wonder with us when it comes to why we're feeling life in the ways that we are.

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