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Want to move out but have manipulative parents

Annie_03 — Sun, 26 Apr 2026 08:12:07 GMT

Last year, I was working on my relationship with my mum. We were getting better after years of a bad relationship with each other. But around end of that year, she really invaded my privacy by reading my diary. She read all my diaries. I journal a lot, as recommended by my psychologist. So I have a lot of thoughts in there. Obviously after reading everything, she was furious. I decided to move out right that week but got talked out of it by my cousins who told me not to avoid the situation and not act impulsively. So I faced it, and I took her out to dinner and sorted things. My dad however, we haven’t talked after that whole ordeal because even the thought of me moving out is so against “our culture”. He told me he would drag me out of the house I would’ve move out to and drag me back home. I’m nearly 23 by the way.

I have always wanted to eventually move anyway. Whether or not my relationship with my parents is good or not, they still have their strictness and olden day thinking and I grew up differently. I just want to live my life. Moving out for me is now more than just a privacy reason but also because I feel like I do not know how to be an adult. Yes I have a full time job but I barely know any life skills. And I know for a fact if I don’t move out then I will never grow as an adult because my parents will constantly be like “come home by this time” or “no don’t do that” or “it’s not in our culture” which I am *so sick* of hearing.

I just want this burden lifted off my shoulders. I don’t want to walk on eggshells every time I’m around my mum because she changes her mood every few minutes. I don’t want to live around my dad because he’s just so so toxic. I want to finally be happy and content. What do you suggest I do?

Re: Want to move out but have manipulative parents

blues23 — Sun, 26 Apr 2026 10:12:20 GMT

Hi guest

i think you need to do what’s best for you , . Family’s are and can be extremely complex but the way I see it you are allowed to be free & happy & no your father cannot drag u back home that is illegal your allowed to be independent and no one can stop you from doing this . Set your boundaries with your parents they either respect your choices or they don’t which is also their choices… live your life as you want to free and happy and that is ok . And no one can stand in your way . And if they do you need to make a plan and talk to your parents that these are your choices and they are yours to make as it’s your life to live not your parents

Re: Want to move out but have manipulative parents

CaneNero — Sun, 26 Apr 2026 15:59:19 GMT

If you're not sure then maybe wait a while and don't act on impulse. You could make a really smart choice and spend time saving for an apartment deposit. $50,000. With the full time job, you might be able to save $30k in one year which would be enough for a small deposit. That way your hard work and money go towards your future and not that of the landlord. It's really hard to save up when rent is so high.

But definitely if you feel depressed and believe you'd be happier moving out sooner, then maybe a sharehouse is reasonably priced and would give you a new experience. Can be unstable and generally moving house often in sharehouses. But you do learn a lot and meet a lot of people.

Anyway, the answers will come later. You don't have to decide right away.

Write down what you want to achieve in the next 5 years. Your 5 year plan. Then things will start to make more sense and you can plan it out

Re: Want to move out but have manipulative parents

Annie_03 — Mon, 27 Apr 2026 00:32:13 GMT

Thank you for your response 🙂 I appreciate your idea of a 5 year plan. I think that will help me understand a lot of things and put it into perspective. I do eventually want to move out but you’re right, acting on impulsive will do me more harm than good. Thank you 🙂