topic Family & the guilt of breaking it in Relationship and family issues

Family & the guilt of breaking it

Family2026 — Tue, 10 Mar 2026 07:23:29 GMT

Hi everyone,

im at a loss of what to do, I feel like i need & want to end my nearly 10 year relationship / 3 year marriage, we have more than 1 child. My fear is that I will be in a foreign country that I can not currently work due to my children’s health & I can not get any government assistance. My family support is all in another country I want to move back to but I don’t think my husband will let our children leave with me. I feel out of options staying is effecting my mental health and my children’s as well but they love their dad & would hate for us to break up but I feel physically and emotionally drained. Is there any advice on how to go about this situation? I feel when the time comes and I mention separation & moving he is going to become very difficult to come to understanding my reasonings and I am not in the position to obtain a lawyer.

has one one else gone through anything like this?

Re: Family & the guilt of breaking it

Croix — Fri, 13 Mar 2026 12:46:08 GMT

Dear Family2026~

I'd like to welcome you here to the Support Forum. You sound as if you have no action you can take and are physically and emotionally drained yet need to break off your relationship.

I guess in order to give you more than general advice may I ask why you feel this way, is it perhaps because of the way you are treated, either by your huband or something else?

Being with children and no assistance or support or abiity to work in a foreign country is a very scary thing.

Can you think of any remedy the might allow you to stay? do you think it is something where family counseling might help?

You imply you wish to take the children with you back to the country that will support you , this is a very big legal matter and I would not be surprised if you are correct and your husband would object.

In general as I'm guessing at the issue so I'd suggest you consider the following:

Firstly, whatever happens see a GP and explain how you feel. Your feelings and your circumstances that lead you to being emotionally and physically drained to the extent you want to separate.. The GP may be able to help you cope, or refer you to someone who can.

Secondly find out your exact legal position - whether you take matter further or not. I can suggest Women's Legal Services who do not charge and are familiar with family matters. They have a branch in each state

Thirdly in any case have a discussion with one of our councilors (available 24/7) who may give you advice and may even know of a migrant service that can help.

If you would like to come back and say more that would be great

Croix

Re: Family & the guilt of breaking it

Croix — Mon, 16 Mar 2026 11:51:00 GMT

Dear Family2026~

I did pop down some suggestions, and as they were a guess as to your circumstances and feelings may have been way of track, if so please tell me so I can offer whatever expereince I've had that is closer

Croix