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    <title>topic Desperate and at the end in Relationship and family issues</title>
    <link>https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/desperate-and-at-the-end/m-p/611328#M55357</link>
    <description>&lt;P&gt;Hello,&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;Well, this is unexciting and miserable.&lt;BR /&gt;My wife has started a pretend we're separated routine with me.&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;Won't sleep next to me, makes excuses why. All of which can be managed and fixed.&lt;BR /&gt;It feels like she wants to end it all with me because of my failed behaviour.&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;Apparently, I have ADHD, anxiety and I mouth off, which is terrible for her.&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;Breaks my heart.&lt;BR /&gt;I'm doing everything I know and have been taught to be calm and quiet now.&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;But still avoids me so badly.&lt;BR /&gt;This hurts me a lot.&lt;BR /&gt;I keep asking if she wants to end it.&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;She won't because she knows how much she'll lose.&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;It just kills me.&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;I'm going to see someone about my mental health asap and do whatever they say.&lt;BR /&gt;Begging her to come back to me and work on us.&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;All seems hopeless.&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;I'm on the edge of breaking, lost my job last week through no fault of my own, just bad people doing bad things, illegally.&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;I can't keep this up.&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;I've begged her to try more and be with me and she'll see it's ok.&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;Anyway at my wits end&lt;/P&gt;</description>
    <pubDate>Mon, 16 Jun 2025 01:43:42 GMT</pubDate>
    <dc:creator>RichoC</dc:creator>
    <dc:date>2025-06-16T01:43:42Z</dc:date>
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      <title>Desperate and at the end</title>
      <link>https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/desperate-and-at-the-end/m-p/611328#M55357</link>
      <description>&lt;P&gt;Hello,&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;Well, this is unexciting and miserable.&lt;BR /&gt;My wife has started a pretend we're separated routine with me.&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;Won't sleep next to me, makes excuses why. All of which can be managed and fixed.&lt;BR /&gt;It feels like she wants to end it all with me because of my failed behaviour.&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;Apparently, I have ADHD, anxiety and I mouth off, which is terrible for her.&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;Breaks my heart.&lt;BR /&gt;I'm doing everything I know and have been taught to be calm and quiet now.&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;But still avoids me so badly.&lt;BR /&gt;This hurts me a lot.&lt;BR /&gt;I keep asking if she wants to end it.&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;She won't because she knows how much she'll lose.&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;It just kills me.&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;I'm going to see someone about my mental health asap and do whatever they say.&lt;BR /&gt;Begging her to come back to me and work on us.&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;All seems hopeless.&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;I'm on the edge of breaking, lost my job last week through no fault of my own, just bad people doing bad things, illegally.&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;I can't keep this up.&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;I've begged her to try more and be with me and she'll see it's ok.&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;Anyway at my wits end&lt;/P&gt;</description>
      <pubDate>Mon, 16 Jun 2025 01:43:42 GMT</pubDate>
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      <dc:creator>RichoC</dc:creator>
      <dc:date>2025-06-16T01:43:42Z</dc:date>
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      <title>Re: Desperate and at the end</title>
      <link>https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/desperate-and-at-the-end/m-p/611331#M55360</link>
      <description>&lt;P&gt;Hello RichoC&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;I'm sorry that you're struggling, it can all seem too much sometimes. I think that it's really good that you're reaching out to get help and that you're are prepared to work on yourself and your marriage. I think that there is still hope for your marriage. Doing the right things, giving it some time and having patience can still make it all good. I think it's very important to listen to your wife, try to understand the way she feels, explain how you feel and work together on making things better in a polite, accepting, respectful and patient way.&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/P&gt;&lt;P&gt;I hope things will get better for you, please let us know how you're coping&lt;/P&gt;</description>
      <pubDate>Mon, 16 Jun 2025 02:22:15 GMT</pubDate>
      <guid>https://forums.beyondblue.org.au/t5/relationship-and-family-issues/desperate-and-at-the-end/m-p/611331#M55360</guid>
      <dc:creator>TrueSeeker</dc:creator>
      <dc:date>2025-06-16T02:22:15Z</dc:date>
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